dreading today

Canada
April 14, 2007 11:09am CST
i have to go to my mothers house for a family thing. i hate going, no one talks to me,i'm the black sheep of the family. even when i speak up they look at me like their is something wrong with me, i don't get it. i know my mohter has told them lies about me because i moved out at a young age but come on. my brother is the worst he hasn't talked to me in 11 years. i can't stand going but i feel obligated to go.
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@massageeh (966)
• Taiwan
15 Apr 07
Were you invited? If not, I wouldn't go especially if they keep treating you like that. And if they did invite you, they shouldn't be treating like that, either. I don't know the whole story, but I would go in, get in their face and walk out and don't look back until they come to you. Because it's not going to get any worse because they're already treating you with no respect. And life is all about respect, for self and for others.
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• Canada
15 Apr 07
usually i don't get invited but i did this time. my mother needed help with cooking so that's probably why i was invited. usually my 3 year old daughter gets invited and i don't. mom will ask for her to come for a sleep over and say they arent' doing much then when my daughter comes back i fing out there was a family reunion. anyway i ended up going yesterday. it wasn't as bad as usual, my brother never said a word to me but i spent the time with my cousin. she is the only person i get along with. at least she was there this time.
• Taiwan
16 Apr 07
You are a really nice person. If it was me, I would probably cut them out of my life. I'm not sure, but it sounds like your mom might want to patch up some friction between you two through your daughter, or vice versa. Is your mom a good influence for your daughter? Will she say bad things about you to her? Just some thought,Good luck. From a caring mylot friend.
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16 Apr 07
I rarely go to family events, and I freely admit to being the black sheep too. It used to bother me but now I find that it really doesn't matter to me. I spek to my parents fairly frequently but so far as the rest of my family are concerned, if they can't be bothered to speak to me then why should Iworry.
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Oh my lord. I know exactly how you feel. I think we must be related or something. I am the blacksheep of our family also and my mom made me move out when I was 17. We have spoke since then but she always weighs that over my head. she was very strict and still is. I always felt obligated to do the family functions also and I know I have been talked about like a dog too. When I speak, they look at me like I am ignorant also and they do not hear or listen to a word I ever say. I hated going there. I quit doing all that stuff with my family a couple of years ago and I explained to my mother why. She didn't want to hear and she acted like she understood, but she doesn't call me any more or come around since then. I don't understand why they cannot accept the way I am and the choices that I make. I have to live my own life and I am not going to let my family tell me how to do it any more. We may not ever speak again, but I still love my mom and I hope she is doing fine and well. I have two other sisters also she does not talk to for the same reason. Only one of my sisters still goes there, I think. I am not sure because I don't hear from none of them any more. One of my sisters ahsn't spoken to me in 15 years because she thinks I will tell my mom our business, which isn't the case at all. Oh well, life goes on and I am going to live it the way I want to from now on.
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Why do you feel obligated to go and be unhappy. I would not go. I feel you should be accepted because you are family no matter what and if they can't except you then you need to say good bye and good ridence. I don't talk to half my family and that is because of all the drama. I don't need that drama in my life or stress. I know at first it is hard being without family but if they are not supportive then that is the way it needs to be. I am sorry that your family treats you this way. You need to stop putting your self in a position for them to do this. You have a child to think about as well. If you are unhappy then she will be unhappy. You want her to have a good opinion of family not a bad one. You want her to know she can count on you and you are her family.