Why do Single Women chase Married Men?

United States
April 14, 2007 7:13pm CST
Maybe this is just a personal observation, but I've noticed an increase, especially at work, at the girls chasing married men. When you mention that the man is happily married, they do not seem to care! One girl actually told me it makes it more challenging! Personally I don't see why they would want to waste their time. Is it just to see if they can take him away from another woman? Or is it the excitement of doing something they know is morally wrong?
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I think it's a combination of things, the whole chasing fun and the knowledge that they won't have to commit to the man. I had one girl pursuing my husband, she couldn't take "no, I'm married" for an answer. She even showed up at my house when I was there asking for him, as if my husband would just drop me and our years of marriage in front of her. I gave her a good talking to and she never came back! She thought that since I was big and pregnant she had a chance. After she gave up, she went on to another married man, this time the guy slept with her, he has a few kids with his wife. I really don't know how she can sleep at night!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Me and my husband went thru something similiar awhile back. Except she was a "friend" to both of us, and then I found out she was sending him text messages and the such. When I found out, she was actually shocked that I didn't want to be her friend anymore!
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
15 Apr 07
what a witch! I believe women should stick together, especially since there can be so many losers out there.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
16 Apr 07
yes i agree with both of you. there are plenty of unmarride guys out there.
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@rick615 (413)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I think it has to do with a few different things. One is that it is the sport of the thing. For years, it has been quietly accepted that men would chase married women. Now, women are doing the same thing without the negative assaults on their personality (for some). Unfortunately, the media is making it more acceptable. Also, some women are enjoying the idea of not being "encumbered". They just want to play and not be tied to a man, so it becomes easier to dump a guy after they have their thrill. At least, so explains one woman acquaintence of mine who was trying to explain herself. I am not a saint, but I do not think that this type of "play" is as harmless as some think. The people who suffer are the spouse, the kids and in the end, the cheaters who are involved.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Nicely put! I wonder how they would feel if the roles were reversed and someone was after their husband? I can't imagine it would be worth the thrill.
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• Philippines
15 Apr 07
I am single and i am not attracted to any married guy. i think the reasons behind why some of these girls go after married men in broad daylight could be attributed to plain lack of decency and brain activity.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
When I was single, I worked with married men, some I thought were good looking, nice guys, etc. But I would have never thought of going after them. I wasn't looking for just a roll in the hay.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
I honestly have no idea why some women do this. I happened to end up sleeping with a married man, once. In my own defense, I had no idea that he was married, he wore no ring, had no tan line, never mentioned any kids, or wife, and none of his friends ever said anything about her or his 3 kids the whole night! I was so disgusted with myself after I found out! I was now the other woman and I hated myself, but mostly him for putting me in that position. I really don't see how women can deliberately put themselves there.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
16 Apr 07
you see, its not all your falt,he lied to you, but there are men out there that do just what he did, and then us the women fell bad. i nearly felt into that one time, but i was worned by one of his friends, he too did not have any signes of been married. we ended up been just friends and i met his wonderful wife on day and shes great. sad to say that i could not see him stop at me and ight have an affair with another. why men do this when they have a wonderful wife and family.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
16 Apr 07
some times its not done intentionaly, but i have see girls do that too. its like they try and see how far they can go with him. and how far he would go for them, for her a challege to see if she can get something she knows she should not be going for. home rekers i call them.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I think it is a combination of several different things! It is more challenging, the thrill of the chase and so on. Some women know that married men are not looking for a committed relationship and if they are willing to partake of an affair, it is easier than getting involved in a relationship and become invested in emotions. Some women just don't have morals and will take what comes. There are thousands of reasons why women and men do these things. Humans are all different and have different wants and needs.
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• United States
3 May 07
I don't think that in all cases that a single women chases a man. Some cases it is that they just didn't know that the man was married. By the time they find out they are so involved it is hard to break the relationship off. Not impossible to break it off but hard. When you are talking about emotions it is not a simple case of saying bye when you are involved with someone. Also I think that some women don't want to get married so the easiest way to prevent this is play around with someone who already is. There are different reasons for a single women to go after a married man. But if they know the man is married I think it is very heartless to pursue the man.