Does you partner/spouse nag you?

Taiwan
April 15, 2007 11:34am CST
My wife, I love her with all my heart nags me at least once a day. Of course, it's mostly my fault. Leaving pants here, socks there and stuff. Do you nag or does your partner nag?
7 responses
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I think the word nag is a very ugly word that people use to describe another requesting you to do something that you should have done to begin with. And if nagging is caused by one not doing something when asked...like picking up after one's self...then how can you sit there and use an ugly word to describe what your wife does because of your fault? Now, I also understand that not all people are offended by the same words. So, I guess I have a question. Does your wife like being called a nag? LOL Oh! And to answer your question...No, my partner does not nag and nor do I. If he can't pick up his pants or socks and put them in the dirty clothes, then they are not going to get washed. ha ha
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• Taiwan
18 Apr 07
Of course not. No one likes to be called names. She also thinks I nag at her a lot. But, to me if it is time to do something like picking up after myself, when the time comes, I'll do it. Haven't you had times when you don't feel like moving and your husband asks you to do something? You might think it's annoying. Well? It sorts of breaks the rhythm of things, so when someone nags, it doesn't feel good. Is there a better word or expression besides the "nag" word? If yes, please let me know. I'll be happy to replace the "n" word.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Please do not read into what I did not intend. I was not trying to be rude or abrasive. Just stating my opinion. I think some people also have the term "nag" misunderstood. No..again...I am no implying that you do. Nag is meant as a term of someone asking over and over again to the point it is annoying. I know you understand this. But some people use the term nag when their partner will just ask them to do something. I guess that is why I find it so ugly of a word. Because if I ask or request, I do not want to be labeled as nagging. Does that make sense? I don't know. In our house, we just ask each other to do things. If it is not done, it is going to be done by someone...normally, that would be me because I do not like having to ask repeatedly. ha ha And if so happen that we do annoy one another, we just tell the other that they are being annoying. LOL
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• Taiwan
19 Apr 07
I guess it all comes down to co-operation and how much effort we are willing to put into the relationship. No offense taken, thans for explanation.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
18 Apr 07
LOL..... I truly starting to believe that it's a woman job to nag, if I can say that in a respectful way. If not, ....Oh well, it's still the truth! My wife was good for doing that at one point, but I put a stop to it. Now when she starts in on me, I don't say a word, not one word. I just give her a blank look, like I don't understand what she is talking about or saying for that matter. I know longer speak that language. End result: She knows she was fighting a battle she could not win & stopped. (Great Question LMAO!!!)
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• Taiwan
18 Apr 07
Cool! But, I don't think that works for everyone. I think I tried that before and she ended up not speaking to me for days.
• United States
19 Apr 07
Yup, I guess it's not for everyone.
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@lenapoo (674)
• United States
15 Apr 07
My hubby is alway whining all the time anyway. I tell him that he sounds like my mom an then he decides to shut up.
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• Taiwan
17 Apr 07
Use the mom trick. That really works.
• United States
15 Apr 07
i think every couple nags at some point just some more then others. i nag hubby to go to the store with me. i will beg and beg and still most of the time he says no. lol. he nags me as well usally it has something to do with calling and doing something he doesnt want to have to do. like calling the electric to get an extension. i dotn want to do it and he doesnt want to either so we beg the other one to do it. i compalint hat he leaves his clothes on teh floor and he complains i leave my shoes in teh living room. it is just part of life. now i try to pick up my shoes and he tries to put his clothes in the basket. we know it drives the other one nuts so out of respect we do that for each other. we have talked about it really. i told him i would pick up my shoes if he picked up his dirty clothes lol. be nice to your wife and pick up your stuff lol. then you can say ok i did that you do this lol.
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• Taiwan
17 Apr 07
I guess it all comes down to cooperation. I will try to do my part to make the relationship work. Thank you for the tip.
@beckish (617)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I think I did nag in my first two marriages, looking back and I was nagged in return by my husbands. In my current marriage I make a conscious choice to NOT nag. I have finally learned to not sweat the small stuff. My husband will occasionally nag, but I just ignore it. Peace and serenity is more important to me than arguing about silly stuff that really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. My daughter and son-in-law nag each other all the time - that would drive me nuts at this stage in my life. :-)
• Taiwan
17 Apr 07
When I tell my wife not to nag, she always says she's merely making coversation and giving suggestion. There is nothing wrong with nagging if it's within limits of 3-5 a day.
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
i do sometimes. my husband too. but i don't mind it i find it as a constructive criticsm more. so nothing to worry about.
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• Philippines
19 Jun 07
It is my partner who nags me all the time but i never criticise that because i like that thing in him. It is mostly my fault thats why he tends to nag at me everytime I made a mistake. I find it irritating if he keeps on talking around the house but as i listen to him it makes me realized his point and my mistake. Nagging is not bad at all because in every rule there's always an exemption. Thats why we should think of this thing: We should nag at our partners with essence because it makes sense to them".