what happens if....

@mrbranan (1012)
United States
April 15, 2007 1:50pm CST
What happens if your husband for some reason decideds to leave? Could you make it on your own or are you totaly dependent on him. I have made it a point all my life to know I could but am still surprised by the fact that so many wemen can't.
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9 responses
• United States
15 Apr 07
Although my scenario was not him leaving me it was the other way around. Simply because he did not want to share with me the way a husband and wife should. I did struggle for a while since I had only been working part time before leaving, but had no children at that moment. When I found out that I was pregnant I needed to change my whole train of thought and learn to be independent. Now I am so independent that it is tough on relationships because, I am just not going to give up what I have worked hard for. I too am surprised with the results of people who are so co-Dependant that is really makes me appreciate more what I have gone through.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
Congratulations on being independent! I wish I can have your courage. Maybe changing my views and conditioning will help me become a strong person, or woman for that matter. I have high regards for women who can stand on their own feet and show the world they can. ^^v
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
15 Apr 07
I would be devastated but could make it on my own. I could never be totally dependent on anyone, it is against my way of thought. I do depend on him for a lot but I know I would make it on my own and it is a good feeling.
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I could make it on my own. The kids and I might not have a lot of the things that we have now,but I know that I could make a life for them on my own. Women should never be that dependent on someone that they can't take care of themselves. My husband did leave once after a huge arguement and after I got over the shock of it, I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and done what I needed to do to pay the bills,etc. Of course, he came back and has been here since.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I like the fact that you didn't drown yourself in sarrow. Believe it or not I have seen it and have made sure I wouldn't be in that situation never.
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I do not want to think it for ever ever in my life not for the fact that I cant make it on my own, but we are sharing the life in a perfect way and enjoying everymoment with each other, so its not just me who will be ruined, the other part will also be finished, its too hard for us and we are the best friends as well so expect to solve any kind of problem before it is too late. We are nod dependent on each other if you consider the financial situation but yes, if you consider the way we are living our life and sharing the joy and sorrow.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
15 May 07
I would be devastated thats for sure, however I won't give up and let it ruin me entirely. Of course I will go through the motions of being upset and so forth, but I know I will be strong enough to go on my own if it ever happened. I do alot on my own even though we are together and I think he relies on me more than I rely on him!
@kvss_3 (19)
• United States
6 May 07
I was totally dependent on my husband when we separated and it was hard with a son and no job and no education but with the help of my friends and family I found a job and got back on my feet. Some women are made to feel like they are stupid and cant do anything buy there husbands and after a while you start to believe it your self so they never leave.
@joycer (498)
• Sri Lanka
30 Apr 07
Initially, it's hard.There will be some periods of adjustments, but eventually it will go on with the flow of life. Men are usually the breadwinner of the family.It's just money that you have to earn, but you have your kids, which is more important than anything else.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I would die if that ever happened. We have been together for almost 25 years in August. I really don't think it would ever happened because we made it this far.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
15 Apr 07
My hubby and I have an incredible relationship. However, I am a realistic person and have set up a savings account that I put my money in just in case. He makes way more than I do and with three kids I know I would struggle, but I would be okay, I have no fear even thinking about it. I too am surprised that alot of women are so dependant on their husbands, I hope I never have to be without him, but if he would leave I can bet I'd be okay.