What do you think is important in bringing up your child/ren?

@maximax8 (27048)
April 16, 2007 4:49am CST
I have an 11 year old son. I bought him up vegetarian because I was this at that time he was born. I always choose toys that I thought were suitable for him. I told him guns and knifes are bad things that can hurt people. I explained that I would never buy him a toy weapon. As he got older he became good at craft projects. He was able to make swords for his castle adventures himself. I loves animals and thinks about people's feelings. He tries hard at school but finds reading/writing difficult as he is dyslexic. I am having another baby in May this year. I am thinking how I am going to change my parenting style. I think my oldest nephew has far too many toys. He has more than 100 action men! I am thinking of mistakes I want to avoid this time around. What do you think is important for you in bringing up your child/ren?
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@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I think the most important things when it comes to raising children is making sure the door of communication is ALWAYS open which includes accepting the fact and actually encouraging the child(ren) to voice their opinions, think for themselves and stand up for what they believe in....I think that giving the kids respect is a must as well...we expect them to respect us so why shouldnt we have to do the same in return? Love them unconditionally...thats a huge one with me too...Love your kids completely no matter what...Never try to relive your life through them...we had our turn, now its THEIR turn....Raise them to be openminded and accepting of others REGARDLESS of race, culture, sexuality, religion etc....I get so bent out of shape with parents who force their kids into being narrowminded, they have no idea how much damage they are really doing.... As far as toys, material things goes....no child NEEDS tons of toys, but I do think they need a VARIETY of toys and always IMO educational toys are perfect especially considering what they have out there these days... and finally...remain the one in control at all times....never fear your child....if they need to be put in line PUT THEM IN LINE....BUT at the same time...when they do good, praise them til the cows come home!!
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@maximax8 (27048)
18 Apr 07
I like your comments very much. Communication and praise are so important.
@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
18 Apr 07
I think you did a great job with just about everything - however, without sounding rude, i think every child/person needs to decide whether vegetarianism is how they want to be, rather than just have it forced upon them. A child should be allowed to try ALL things & decide whether or not they want to eat meat or if they believe the same as you do. My daughter has a lot of toys but i think it's also to do with the fact everyone bought her new toys for Xmas, she has lots from her birth & was given a few more over Easter, rather than being flooded with chocolates! Would you consider allowing your new baby (when a little older of course) to try meats - obviously you aren't going to want to cook it or anything but perhaps you could allow him/her to try it, decide whether they like it or not? I do have a question though, what would you do if you allowed your 11 year old son to try meat & have him decide he likes it & doesn't want to be a vegetarian? This isn't nasty or anything i was just curious how you'd handle that? Good luck with the new baby!
@maximax8 (27048)
18 Apr 07
Other's opinions are important to me. My 11 year old son could decide to become a meat eater if he liked. But I think this very unlikely. My sister had pet ducks, my mum a pet hen and me pet rabbits when he was younger. He is very fond of cows and pigs. The whole of our family are vegetarian except me. I am vegan. My son could be too if he wanted but he chooses to be vegetarian.
@aciddrop (798)
18 Apr 07
i think help children develop useful and rewarding interests is important.you never know how much potential they have in some parlicular fields!besides the time you devote on them is essential,give them more time and stay often with them.i am sure you will have a cute and smart baby!:)
• China
17 Apr 07
love,
• China
16 Apr 07
i think to baby their parents will affect them through their life because they consider their parents as their idols. the important thing of bringing up children is to guide them to the good orientation ,told them the good things and to be a good person and not to do bad things and so on. the toys must be enough to play by your children but not excessive, i think. it is my own opionon,maybe not correct.