would you have any problem accepting your bf/gf's kids?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
April 16, 2007 7:24am CST
if you got involved with another person, one with kids from former relationships, would that be a problem for you? would you find it hard to accept those kids and try to make your life with them as normal as possible or would it be a too big obstacle for you?
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Well if you already know the person has kids then you better be prepared to accept them Otherwise you shouldnt even be dating that person. I love my step-daughter and I knew she was a package deal when i met my now husband. It takes work to blend a family but with patience and hard work from all sides it can be done .
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Amen!
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
17 Apr 07
well said MD, you must asume that the person you want to be with has certain circumstances, some of which cannot be changed (like kids) so when it comes to them it's just take it or leave it.
• United States
17 Apr 07
i think it would be hard for me to accept, not because the kids are from a realtionship in the past bust becuase i'm not ready to be rsponsible for kids. odds are very good i wouldn't get invloved with someone who had kids in the first place.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
17 Apr 07
thanks for your honesty sloanjosiecat :)
• United States
16 Apr 07
it would really depend on the circumstance. i have seen friends relationships destroyed not by the kids,but the other parent interfering in the current relationship via the children.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
17 Apr 07
I agree, each case is different....the other parent interfering, kids being in the middle....no one knows how things are gonna turn out.
@joshdale08 (2324)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
we could never be sure if we're not actually in that situation but for the sake of the discussion, i'd say that maybe at first, it would be hard for me. i might even be jealous for awhile but then, kids have a way of getting under your skin so, maybe in time, i'd fall in love with them. generally, i have no problem with kids coz i love them so maybe, it won't be too hard if i were in that position.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
16 Apr 07
My partner has two older children. I have three younger children. I get along fine with his children. I don't try to mother them. We are friends. My children do call my partner dad. He does father them. When you go into a relationship you have to respect one anothers children. You have to see what the children need from you. My partners children have a great mother already so all they need from me was a friend.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
18 Apr 07
I think i would have a problem, probably because i have heard all about some of my partners ex's & i don't think i could handle having them still be a part of his life. Actually i don't think i could have stayed with him if i'd known but that wouldn't have really made him my b/f at that point. I think if they're honest from the beginning about if they have kdis with someone else, then you can choose to continue the relationship with them or not to get involved at all. I'm sure most people would be fine with it but i don't think i could handle the constant reminder of his ex is all - i'm very insecure but that's due to another factor so i have always been like that.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
17 Apr 07
Hi LightninStrike. If I got involved with a guy who had children from the previous marriage i would gladly accept,treat and raise them as I would my own children, being careful not too push the boundaries of being step mom, on over doing it without gaining trust and firstly being a friend