Money and love?

Here's the deal: I work a full time job and a part time job. My full time job direct deposits payroll so I never even see my check. My part time job mails my check, my husband gets it-I never see it. If I want money or need money, I have to ask permission. I am not allowed to use my credit card or the debt card. Ever. So I found some cash at home that was labelled "kelly taxes"-it's money he set aside from my second job to cover takes on that check, which amount to only 150 bucks a month. I grabbed about $50.00 out of it and now he is having a duck fit. How do I shut him up about it?