to live together or to marry

I chose marriage and thats what I would choose if I wasn't married. I want to be married to the one I love and the one I want to grow old with. Yes some people live together forever without getting married and some do it for fear they will lose what they have already. Like it's going to go away or something. I don't understand why some people think that because really getting married is just the official thing to your relationship and it shouldn't change the way you already live especially if you have been living with you SO.

When I got married, there weren't very many who lived together. I think that living together has become very popular these days. I don't see anything wrong with living together. This way the individuals can really get to know the good and the bad characteristics of each other. I am very happy to be married to a wonderful man. I plan on growing old with him. To others, the piece of paper stating they are married doesn't mean anything, so they grow old together living together.

I myself am in a relationship that has been for 8 years and regret it...To me the best option before you live together with your partner is to get married. The reason why I say this is that when you live with someone before marriage they get use to the do everything like where married but not married..if that makes sense..sort of getting the milk for free before buying the cow...But then again it depends on the relationship that you have with your partner as well...to each his or her own...

For me, I would choose to marry my love one I mean my partner. Although, I'm still living with my boy friend without the blessing of marriage. But it is proper if we are going to marry and have kids afterwards... Peace!!!

Ideally I think marriage is better. Sometimes the "m word" can trigger the defense mechanisms of an otherwise wonderful partner though. I think some relationships need time to lead up to marriage while others work better when people start their lives REALLY together with marriage. It just depends on the couple I guess.

when you live together you have a different set of rules. You dont expect the same things. This is why you are set up to fail. If you want to walk away you always can in a marriage you dont have that option and you have freely given it up. It means you try to make things work.

me i choose to live together because it will let you know your partner more better. because marriage is not a game that you will gonna quit easily. They say that in marriage, its easy to get it and hard to get out.

i say live together. before, I believed in marriage but after having a live-in partner for 2 years which didn't work out, I became thankful for not marrying him. But of course, in every relationship we are having, we always want to end it for a lifetime. But then again, we can't tell what might happen. It's better to know each other first while living together and start to accept each other's weaknesses before getting married. Never think divorce as an option. I never agree to that.

I too would prefer to marry just i did and grow old with the same person thats apersonal choice.Well marraige brings in asecirity os sorts like you fight but you make up for there is something that binds you.If you are binded than you adjust otherwise you will just walk out at the slighest fuss.Life and relationships dont work this way.

All I can tell you is that living together is sin according to the Word of God and it's basically cowardly. There really there is no commitment in living together and no real love because real love requires commitment. I don't mean the kind of commitment that people think of today that changes with the direction of the wind or some whim. When a person marries, they should be making a vow for life because that's what marriage is - a decision for life. If both people aren't planning to make vows for life, they shouldn't get married. When my parents married 49 years ago, they made vows to each other that they meant and they took seriously. The idea of divorce wasn't part of those vows. As far as they were concerned, they made a lifetime commitment and that commitment has seen them through when most people would have divorced. The biggest problem is that most people who get married these days only marry because of an emotional love. That's not the kind of love that carries you through the hard times. When someone marries for real, they put themselves aside and their "rights" aside for the good of each other. That doesn't mean that you stay in an abusive situation but it does mean that if two are to become one, they have to both commit to putting the other's needs first. If someone really loves another person, they are willing to put themselves aside for that person and if both of you are doing that equally, imagine how wonderful the relationship will be. The problem is that most of the time in this day and age, only one person is usually that committed to the relationship and it only works when both of you are that committed. The reason that so many people divorce after living together is that they were never really committed to the other person to begin with or at least one of them wasn't. Anyway, that's my input.