Embracing The Change Around Us after a Breakup or End of a Relationship

Whether you're 18 or 80, there's a lot to be learned about love and relationships. Change in our relationships and in our lives is as inevitable as the sun rising in the morning and setting in the evening. Most of us go through one or several breakups or lose our partner during our lifetime.

Those changes can be very painful. Here are some suggestions that we have found to be helpful for accepting change in our relationships and in our lives:

1. Embrace "what is"
When large changes happen in our lives, sometimes we would rather avoid looking at the truth and deny that the changes are happening, instead of looking at "what is." many of us would rather save our relationship with our partner.

We're not at all suggesting that leaving a relationship or giving up on a relationship is always the best thing to do. In fact, we are great proponents of hope and revitalizing relationships.

What we are suggesting is that in your relationships and in your life, you can always...

2. Learn from what happened
Embrace every relationship, every moment as a learning experience waiting to happen. Every now and then we'll lose our connection with each other and when we do, we take time to learn from what happened. We try to come up with ways to change that will make our relationship even better.

3. Be in gratitude for what was
No matter what has happened in your life and in your relationships, you can always be in gratitude for what has happened. Because the truth is that you are who you are in this moment because of your experiences, the people you've met, and the stories that have touched your life.

We've discovered that shifting to being grateful helped ease the pain when dramatic changes rocked our lives and we think that it will do the same in yours.

4. Look at where you are now and determine how you want to begin moving forward in your life
Whether you are in a good relationship and want to make it better, in an unhappy relationship, or not in an intimate relationship now, we suggest that you take the opportunity to determine what it is that you want. What's one small step that you can take to move toward having what you want? Figure out what that one small step is and do it.

We all experience change in our lives and we hope that some of these suggestions are helpful to you as you too begin to open more to possibilities and to love.