What is the most stressful part in preparing for a wedding?
By squaretile
@squaretile (3778)
Singapore
May 14, 2007 8:13pm CST
For those who have been married, or who have been involved in preparing for a wedding (say your brother or sister, or your close friend): what is the most stressful part of preparations?
Is it finding the right venue? getting the invitation list out (negotiating how many to invite, or who to invite)? arranging the seating for the dinner? writing down the programme for the entire day? or finding the right gowns and suit?
6 responses
@sunslinger (474)
• Singapore
15 May 07
I'm married and had a traditional chinese wedding - twice. Once over at my wife's hometown in Sabah, Malaysia and another one here in SIngapore a week later.
Therefore, I can say in all fairness that it is always the guest list that is the most challenging and a mine field for quarrels, not just with your spouse but with your parents and in-laws as well. Other than that, the programme for the day is also challenging but you have to rope in your best man(s)/brothers for that so it's quite fun.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
15 May 07
hmm... i guess everything is okay, except for the finance part. Balancing the cheque book every time we want to make a decision to buy something for the wedding is really the toughest!
Imagine, your wife tells you she likes something very very VERY much, but your budget does not allow it, you then have to see that disappointed look. But I am lucky, I got a very understanding wife who is willing to take an alternative to keep the budget low.
The nitty gritties like gown designs, favors, color themes... etc are all headaches in its own rights!
Hopefully after all this is done, we can afford a good HoneyMoon to relax!
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
15 May 07
I guess you would have set out a budget already. So if that's the 'agreed' budget between you and your wife she should be quite clear also about how much she can spend on what.
personally, I felt that it was more worth it to spend on the honeymoon and the flat. The apartment is where you're going to live long term. The wedding details are only for that one day.
Our rule of thumb was not to top-up as far as possible (try to resist the photos topping up - major mark up there). Honeymoon can splurge a bit cos you both deserve a good rest!
@siddhinfo (1500)
• India
15 May 07
Most stressful part is to find out whether not missed any relatives from being invited to the wedding.
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
15 May 07
For my first wedding it was the seating plan. I got into a big argument with my parents about the seating plan at dinner. My Dad shooed us out of the room and said he would do it himself. In the end we ended out moving people around because he had placed my two nieces and one nephew at a table with a bunch of old fogie friends of my parents whom they did not know. We had said that kids whose ages were double-digits were invited to the wedding.
At my second wedding there was no seating plan. People sat where ever they wanted. There really is no need for a seating plan. Forgo it.
@ctv101103 (859)
• Philippines
15 May 07
for me, it would have to be planning for the seating arrangement of guests. it was really hard to sit 450 guests! it took me a lot of sleepless nights before the wedding just to put everyone in place.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
15 May 07
yes I agree! Seating is a nightmare. Especially when you have to put everyone in tables of 10. My friend had 610 guests. Can you imagine the madness?
Seating ties in with invitations. when there are last minute cancellations, the seating plan has to be re-jigged! What a mess and total headache!
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