who will help me to analyse this sentence?

It means that She ( some woman) has expressed the idea that I (the speaker of the sentence) throughout life prefered that issues, belongings, things are in their rightful place, and the resulting environment, is neat.
Because the sentence is so clear I wondered if you were joking?

She is elaborating on your want/ desire that you were expressing since long in the past. That is why, "have ...wanted" is used. Further, you wabt that everything should be "well organised and neat". That is why, "to be" is used.

I hope it helps.