how do i tell my bf he can't make me have an orgasm

Do yu love him in other ways? Have you been using other positions or toys to help you? do you iniatate the love making or do you sometimes start? There are many women who cannot or do not have orgasm with their partners so it is probably your partner just not "hitting the right buttons". Or you might be stressed out by other things and cannot concentrate on having a good time. If I were you (and I am not) I wuld try talking to him abut wht might give you more pleasure. If things do not go well then you might need a professional (doctor) to help you out. You might be worried abut getting pregnant or other things. Another professional (if the doctor tells you that everything is in good order ) is a good hypnotist to help you to understand why you are not having orgasms.

First you need to explain to him what you want him to do so that you can have one.
See the problem people have is communication if there is none,you can't tell someone what you want.
Talk to him as softly and sweet as you can and tell him hold to please you and ask him what pleases him. God bless and good luck

don't tell him that unless you want to hurt him really bad and irrepearably damage your relationship. Tell him that lately youre having trouble having orgasms (don't blame him) and that you need him to help by doing something different, and then know what to tell him.

i think never tell him directly, you have to make him do so, you have to tak ethe initiative . Make him to do in different position as that will stimulate your g-spot. May be he dont know much about this, if so tell him that there is one poit of sensation that he missed last night .

Five years is an awful long time to have been faking it. You should have told him when it was quite easy to accept that you were still in the "exploring" phase. Unfortunately, you can't go back to that now. Here's a white lie that might work: Why not tell him that you haven't been getting an orgasm "recently" instead of for the whole five years of your relationship? He might exert some extra effort in making you have one. Or maybe in the act itself, if he gets off and leaves you unfinished, maybe you could tell him in a sweet way something like "That was quick. But honey, I didn't come. I was almost there, but you came a bit too soon..." without having to tell hime that you haven't had the big O in the last five years...

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Maybe a good way to not hurt his feelings and get your orgasm back is to bring a few toys into bed. Many guys like using toys on their girlfriends and or wifes. Check out this site, its got everything you could need........plus some you dont.

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i believe that sex is a part of love. however, sex is not love. you can love without sex. you also can have sex without love. sex is just the act of exchanging bodily fluids through the pleasurable process of love-making. love is making the effort of serving and offering oneself to another, not only in bed but also the whole being, including the mental and the physical aspects. both of which are pleasurable. there is always an overwhelming feeling to want to serve, and this just goes on getting stronger through the years. however, the best thing is to have sex out of love. wanna know why? it is because in sex out of love, there is the element of care and respect. this is why there is the fulfillment in sex. however, if it is in sex alone. you just get tired afterwards. at any rate, this is why sex is made to be more beautiful every time it is made out of love. therefore, there should be an open highway of communication. in this highway, they should be able to talk freely without hesitation, and without holding back. and then, sex invitations are invitations. the man has the right to say no just as much as the woman does. sex is not something that one should force on the other .i really believe that even though the partners are already married,they still should leave space to each other for self decision. it is quite understandable that sometimes,the woman or even the man wont be in the mood. it would be so difficult to push love making. at any rate,the wife, just like the husband has all the right to say no. but, the point here is, the manner of saying no should not be in a manner that will make the partner feel rejected. this is a highly sensitive time to understand that when one has been refused sex,he or she may feel so rejected, and may even question the love and integrity of the partner. for this, i always advise that if one is not in the mood, he or she should not be forced to it. however, if it is possible, the one not in the mood should try to at least give in. in this case, the hands or tongue can still be used. the important thing is that one should try to participate and give in to it. at any rate, the woman cannot force the man if he is in no mood to perform. i mean, how can the man perform if he cannot raise his flag? as for the woman, how can the man force the woman if she really cannot perform? it wouldn’t be a nice thing to see her in such pain. right?

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Just allow the guy to get in there praise him for being such a powerful, man, sing his name all the while, but warn him not errupt until you tell him to do so-emphasize, that is a commoand that he must follow, once you have issued an ultimatum, get back to praising him immediately, allowing him to be the man and you the woman-this will delay premature orgasim-help to guid him to your G.spot-you know it better!