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Do you have a custom of taking photograph with someone who has just passed away? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life3 years ago

In olden times, we had a custom of taking photograph with the dead and deceased. With all sad and some vigorously sobbing family members flocking around the departed, the profesional photographer used to frame the moment. Ppl used to have it hung on the wall and garland it religiously. I still have such a tinted, black and white photograph of my great grandpa in my possession. It doesn't give a happy feeling to me but brings back fond memories to my father.

Since then a lot has changed. and lately i donot remember anyone taking photograph in that grim moment of demise.

do you frame the last moment with your departed dear ones? did you have any such custom earlier?

 
 
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caribe (1875) response was accepted on 5/26/2007.
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1. myLot reputation of 87/100. infinity52 (270)   ranked 4,633 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

wow.. wat a custom.. not heard of tht in my country.. but it is a bit freaky.. i would be really scared to go near a dead body..


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

its amazing, how your loved one becomes dead and scary instantly!!!

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2. myLot reputation of 95/100. lordwarwizard (10401)   ranked 337 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

Oh gosh. You mean people actually do that? That is so morbid!! We don't take pictures at funerals... that would be very disrespectful over here...


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

indeed it is!!
now, the custom is almost outdated, ppl are growing in their thoughts and actions.

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3. myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (8924)   ranked 1,159 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

No there is no custom as such on our side of taking photographs of a deceased person. And I personally feel, that taking photograph of a deceased person, along with grieving relatives...does not appear to be appropriate. Because if you happen to see the photographs afterwards, you will again become sad and will lost in the memories.


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

as i have mentioned,, may be, 3-4 generations ago, this was a rural custom. ppl used to contemplate the memories of the deceased!!!
today, i can only shiver and amaze at the morbidity of the custom.


myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (8924)   ranked 1,159 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

Yaar, tumarhey dimag me aisy aisey morbid aur darawaney khayal kaise aatey hai...kuchch goody goody soochcha karo.....LOL!
deepak


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

yes, you are right.


myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (8924)   ranked 1,159 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

Kuch achcha achcha socha?

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4. myLot reputation of 94/100. gabs8513 (19440)   ranked 1,063 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

No I have never heard of this before
I don't think I could do that to be honest I rather have a Photo of the Person how I remember them when they where alive


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

even i couldn't do it, its morbid!!

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5. myLot reputation of 97/100. teison2 (4765)   ranked 5,776 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

I have never heard about people taking photographs of their dead before. I have seen and touched my dead relatives, but i do not have photographs taken of them after they died. I like to remember them how they were - I remember their smiles, their laughter, their eyes. I think it is much nicer to remember them like that. I guess it is just completely new to me - and I find it hard to imagine what that would be like.


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

teison, it was an old rural custom here and now iots outdated and ppl scare at its morbidity. even i donot need a photograph to remember my loved ones.

thanx for sharing.

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6. myLot reputation of 99/100. caribe (1875)   ranked 7,399 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

When my brother died five or six years ago, his Vietnamese wife hired a photographer to take pictures and she wanted his family to pose with the body. Americans don't have such a custom and it made our family very uncomfortable, however, we realized she had different customs and was grieving and we kept our feelings about it under check and most of us did as she asked. Having said that, I hope I never have to be in that kind of situation again. It was very uncomfortable and felt disrespectful to us, her husband's family.


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

dear caribe,
the relativity of customs and rituals maze me like anything! its surprising indeed that how one custom gets disrespected by one region and respected by other!!
and also how fast things change and get outdated with education and time.

thanx for sharing your experience. i know it felt uncomfortable but for the lady it was something she would have repented all through her life if it wasn't done at that time of pain.

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7. myLot reputation of 99/100. Bizziebod (2156)   ranked 470 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

I have heard of some people taking photos, to me it's a little macabre as I would prefer to remember them as they are but I do know of someone who took video of their sister who had died. It's definately not a well customed practice in the UK though!


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

taking video is bizzare!! its a good thing that the custom is not there anymore..

thanx for sharing.

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8. myLot reputation of 100/100. Heavensent53 (2615)   ranked 41 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

Here in the U.S. we have such diversity, that there still are families that do this. In my family, we do not. I can see both sides, and sometimes wish we had done this, for the future, as you say you treasure your family history. I think that is wonderful that you can have that. You take care, mimpi.


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

yes, diversities sometimes amaze us!! how just for custom's sake, relevant things gets irrelevant and viceversa!
love and hugs..

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9. myLot reputation of 100/100. maribea (1161)   ranked 5,793 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

my dear friend, what a peculiar tradition you have. It is always such an interesting thing discussing about our cultures..well, in ancient times it was a diffuse habit having a picture of the departed, a painting or a statue depending on the money and tastes of the family. Now we are used to create a little book of prayer with a picture of the departed while being alive and his or her favourite prayer or a prayer we choose for them..this is the current tradition..I chose with my mother a prayer to remember my grandmother who died some months ago and we wanted to use a photograph takes during her last birthday party..she was so happy that day and we were happy, too..so we wanted to remember the happy moments we shared together


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

rightly so, indeed happy times should be treasured. your custom is really touching. thank God that we got over this weird custom now.

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10. myLot reputation of 98/100. RESSIE0168 (3208)   ranked 149 out of 38,193 in life   3 years ago

to me it is important to remember this special person even into death.My whole family takes pictures and often I go to the grave site and take pictures of the grave.It is a sign of respect from me to the dead.I feel like I need that last photo before the earth claims them...


myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8086)   ranked 127 out of 38,193 in life  3 years ago

i think, its more out of this thoughtfulness that our custom had been there. its just framing the last moment of the loved ones....its tough to let go.

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