What would you do with your aging parents?

My sisters and I have actually talked about this. We would definitely take them in and care for them. I don't know how much help I would be financially but whatever one of us can't do, the others would do. I would hate to even think of seeing my parents or stepparents in a "home". They took care of me when I was younger (and still do at times). So it's only right for me to return the favor.

I'm not in a position where this would happen soon (as my parents are fairly young) but I think I would take them in my home and try to care of them. I have in past when they have gotten sick so nothing will change once they age. Of course a lot of factors would play, whether I have kids, my husband's thoughts on the matter, whether we still live in the same state or not...there's a lot to consider beforehand.

Thankfully though, my parents plan on retiring in our birthplace, the Dominican Republic. So I don't think I'll ever have to put them in a home. They're also well off, so even if they stay here in the states there's a lot to work with and a lot of options my brother and I can take.

i am an only child and i worry about this alot of the time...my parents still live in their own but they are getting up there in years...i live close by, but since i am the only child, everything is up to me...

It's very hurtful and disappointment if outr parents get to know we as their kids are reluctant to take care of them when they are unable to manage them self .

I would definately take care of my parents without any hesitation.But as you said if we have a other sibling they should also be apart of the responsiblity.I agree for that,but not all the sibling are willing to do that even though they know they should.If this is the case i would not argue with them,i would just take her with me and take the full responsibility.

Because if our parents would know their kids are arguing for who and who suppose to take care of them,how do you think about that,that's really hurt them a lot.

Fortunately me and brother we work together very well for sharing our responsibility to my mom. Somehow my mom is still doing well .She live with my brother and help her up on financial.

I was working part time when I took my dad in to care for him. He pays me what I was making at my job. So there is no finacial loss at the time. Except for the fact everything is more costly since he moved in 3+ years ago. I am tempted to ask for a raise but find it hard to do.
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I'd take care of them myself, unless that the best for them. I'm not that selfish to put my needs before but if they need more than I can offer well you know I have to go with that.

Even if it wasn't good and money was tight I'm sure I would manage.

~Joey

i had a very loving mother which has passed but i would be glad to take care of her if it came to that. she had a rough life and if i was able to help i sure would. a mother is very precious.

i will never put my parents in an elderly home. when i was small and could not even wipe my a$$, they do it for me with love. when i can't feed myself, they feed me. when i can't walk, they carry me... they do everything for me.

and when they age, i will just throw them in such places? no way. i'd rather take care of them no matter how difficult it might be.

as of now, my parents are just in their fiftees. but i never let them do so much at home. they are there sitting, relaxing and having fun. i do most of the chores and i love looking at them... just being happy.

... anne

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My brother actually lives with my parents and they are both in very good help considering they are in their later 50's. Besides, my parents would never let us send them to a nursing home even if we tried.

Hopefully it does not happen soon. I would like to think I would try and take care of my mother. However we tend to argue when together for to long. If she needs more care there are many good places in my city. I would try to visit at least once a week . I have a cousin that took care of her grandparents until their last days and said she wouldn't have had any other way.