Have you ever been accused?

Thanks for the kind response laurie and for not being judgemental on me. I was very much in doubt wether to post this subject or not, as i know how cruel some people can be on here (the web),and aware of the risk of mudthrowing 'thugs. But your reply and the others as well make me feel good that i did.

Ofcourse there is a longer story behind this and i will try to tell you iin brief. 15 month ago i was living in the uk (did this for 10 years) and did not know that i had a teenage daughter back in denmark. When i was informed of this i was also told that she was in a childrens home and had been for a couple of years. As any decent man would do i decided that no way should my daughter be in a childrens home if i could do anything to stop it.

So I left the UK to get back to Denmark to find out in what way i could be of any good to my daughter and put an end to her stay at the home. 4 months later my daughter was discharged from that place into my care.

Yes, she is a very troubled teenager with a very sad background, way to long to get into here, but one thing is for sure, her mum is the cause for load of my daughters problems today.

As u can imagine i have done all i could for my daughter to the best of my ability and that is why i find it so difficould to accept that she could pull this stunt on me. As a social worker myself, having worked with teenagers for many years, i am fully aware of the problems she could have landed me in. This is what i cannot get to grips with. She is 17 years old and deffinately not a stupid girl, but she dont seem to realise this and this is what i get for all i have done for her.

I know i did the right thing by asking social services for help and i agree that she needs proffessional help, a help that i cannot give her and i will fight to hell and back that she will get it.

Once again thanks for your response, its nice to know that you can actually be honest on here and expect to get an adult feed back.

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After your rant against me and your use of the words honey and sweetie, I think you have issues with the female gender.

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I know that sunshine. That is the only reason i am here. Your ppl's support carry me thru xx

Kim

thanks to you too wic! I have forgiven her and do all i can to show her that i love her. Also i am willing to let her come home again, but feel we need to mend the bridges before this can happen in a propper way.

Also read my response to the feedback i got from everybody else.

Funni you should say this rattybaby! its exactly what the social worker said when i last spoke to her. Not about taking her back or not, but what is to stop her from doing it again. Yes she could have landed me in very serious trouble.

Well it's a risk i must be willing to take, after all she is my daughter, she is obviously not well and she needs me. I said A and got to say B as well, no matter what risk this precent to me. After all i know the truth and despite of everything can hold my head high.

Thnx boknoy! You sure can't! Therefore my only consolence in this is that i can stand proud too.

Thnx to you too Charlene!

If you read my comments to the other feed back i got on this issue you will understand why i HAVE to forgive my daughter and try move on from here, however difficould it may be. To end up in prisson there must be evidence of the crime. So i got to rest in peace knowing that nothing ever happened and therefore there will be no case.

I have a spotless crime record and as a social worker have worked with teenagers for most of twenty years and never had any allegations against me. No way am i going to allow her to ruin this or my carrea.

Well contributing with nothing is still a contribution. Thanks

And wtf does municipal mean? I have never heard that word before despite having lived in England for 10 years. Is it an american word or is it proper english?

Life is crap init oneandone?

Yes i do believe the relationship is worth saving, not for me but for my daughter, its her who will have to live with what she has done to me, i can only try to make her suffering less painfull.

Thanks for ya friend request, i have approved you and look forward to get to know u. greetings.

I just wanted to stop by and see how things are going between you and your daughter?

I know how hard its going to be, and I have to wonder what is going through her mind right now.

But I know what depression is like, and I know its a long battle.

Mooch

Why cant you just fcuking leave me alone. You have proved to me what a scumbag your are, and i have no interest what so ever to keep communicating with you. So go Fcuk ya self and fcuking get out of my way. Unless you have the breakfast ready:)

Kim

I don't like people who you tell off that keep thinking that they are your friends. After you tell them to fcuk off, they still don't get the hint. What do they need a ton of bricks to hit them in the head????

My my. Such language.

I dont mind at all mad mummy, lol. If i did i should not have asked for advice. She told me and everybody else who bothered listening to her. It was after her boyfriend dumped her. Believe me i tried to listen to her and console her the best way i could and tried help her to move on. I had my daughter sat in front of me on a daily basis for 2 months, crying her heart out to me telling me how fed up she was with her life and how much she wanted to put an end to it.

In the beginning i was very much on guard as i do not believe that the people talking about suicide never do anything about it, coz in my job i have seen otherwise. But when she had not done it in 2 month i got to admid i loosened the guard thinking that she was on her way to recovery and more used her daily threats as a way of getting the attention.

There is ofcourse, as i can see u r also aware about a long storry behind all this. Please read my comments to the other feed back i had on this issue, if ya want to get a little wiser. Thanks for ya understanding and ya well wishes.

Thanks for sharing and I am sorry that you are going through this. I read your previous comments and can sort of understand how this came about. I know it must be difficult for you too because of the things you've had to go through to get her to come home to you in the first place, and then to have her go through her ordeal, and then on top of that being accused of molesting her. That would surely hurt to the core. I know you will always love her regardless however I also know its not easy to forget accusations like that. I also read that you both are in family counseling which is most definitely a start to reconcile and start the healing process. I'm sure she will be back in your home when you both are ready to have each other back. All the best thedaneisback*hugs for you*

And hugs to you mad mummy and thanks for taking your time to bother/care for a stranger. Means the world to me. xxx

And thanks for best response too my friend!

Yw hunni:) xx

Hey there Liran.

Thanks for ya feed back. Please read my comments on other feed back i recieved on this issue, and u might be a little wiser as to why i have to take the risk.

I sure hope it will all get solved too