What can I do?  

I would just tell him nicely you can't afford it! And stick to it.. and nicely tell him it over and over.. can only sleep over for the night and have breakfast, only one, maybe two cigs, after that he simply has to leave, tell him he knows how expensive all things are.. sorry bud, just can't do it anymore.. and we don't want to get mad at you over it and wreck the friendship.. repeat a shortened version of it each time if needed.. if he goes ahead and wrecks the friendship you'll know he wasn't a friend but just a user and may as well find it out now as years down the road. No one will blame you.. Good luck!:)

Well Hi to you driller.....
Your problem seems to bit of complicate and unusual but not unheard. Many people I know often comes to me with such problem. I think you despise that person and all the same you dont want ur relations to be breaked with him. But let me tell you he does not deserve your favour, si its time that you and your husband consider their relation with that prat more seriously. Just give him some tough time and bring him back to earth. Show him that he cant take you people for granted. If you succed in this you will soon find ur plan working...!!!!
So Good Luck to you!
Till than Bye!

I think your friend has no hard job so he is staying with you some more days after week ends. Give him a hard job so that he keep himself engaged in work and make his own weekend by himself. He has no other friends like you so he is loving to keep associated with you. So you can arrange a good friend for him and tell him that :hey vagabond friend, keep busy with new friend and visit us when you find time" I think no other way to go off from him because the taste he got from you will never forget until he get new assignment with a new friend for weekend.

Since he is your friend then I am sure you can talk to him in a nice way. Tell him the friendship is not the same as before. There's always limitation.

There's no harm in trying to tell the truth then and I know he will understand that. Maybe he is confident enough because you're both very nice to him...so just let your husband to have a heart to heart talk with that guy. And if the guy won't listen the that's the time that you'll avoid him .

People can only take advantage of you as long as you let them. Is this guy really a friend? Because a true friend wouldn't treat his friends like a free ride. You need to firmly tell him when to go home, to buy his own cigs, and all that other stuff. If he gets mad and stops hanging around, too bad for him! Who needs "friends" like this one?

Do you call this friendship? I call the parasites and virus, who needs to be killed. Even i have couple of such friends. It is very nice to pass time with them. But then they always used to ask me for money. Initially inever gave them telling that i dont have o i have a need or so. When they persisted, i gave one of my friend 2000 bucks. I badlyhoped that he should not return them, as i devised a plan. It so happened that he never returned the mney. So i began telling all other friends that this guys has taken money and never returned. I always used to ask him my money when ever he is around. Since i have been taking too much about this, my other friends never dared to ask me anything and even this fellow neve asked me again although he didn't returned my money yet. However i brought an end to this and still could maintain friendship with everybody.

I know its not good to speak about others, but then this is just simple trick. Hope this works for you as well. It all depends on how you talk and be very careful in choosing the words. It should appear so casual but should hurt them badly.

You said that you would like to help someone who want to help himself. He doesn't seem like he wants to help himself. I would keep telling him that you are broke. Even if you all are sporting new tattoos and stuff. LOL If he is a true friend he will understand. If he doesn't then is he really a friend or just a freeloader looking for the next free ride.

This man seems to have forgotten to grow up. This man is not your friend at this point. You and your husband are resenting him so you need to move him on. The best thing you could do for him is to cut him adrift. No more cig. No more loans and no more allowing him to stay at your house. You are enabling him to be a mouch. As long as you and your friends keep helping him he will stay right where he is. You and your friends are doing a smoothering mother thing.