how to cooldown the stress when become a mother ?

No solutions! Hire maids if you can afford, otherwise these are the burning coals of life over which all of us have to walk. I hold the same grudge against my mom. She brought me up single-handedly since my dad used to stay abroad. She not only managed home and hearth, but her office too. Yet, I feel that she could have been a little more free with me, a little more relaxed and lenient. I had a horrible childhood where everything was censored and I had no freedom, no friends, no entertainment. My only entertainment was when I accompanied mom to her parents house. Now I am a mom of an 8yr old boy. Even I lose my temper and situations become extremely frustrating. Then I think of my mom and two things happen…one I understand why she used to spank me so often, secondly I stop myself from spanking my son coz I don’t want him to grow up with hatred in his mind for me. I try to discipline him by being firm, but its not working most of the times. So I am just bit confused now as to what should I substitute spanking with? Any ideas?

I haven't been a mother, but I hope I can give you some soothing words so that you can feel relieved. Yes, children can make us go crazy at one time. Especially when they are crying, fighting with each other or disobey us. I suggest that once a week you send your children to the nursery and you go out with your husband. Both of you can go out anywhere you like, such as the supermarket, the park or anywhere you want to go. Maybe you could release a bit of your tense. Another way is to find a place where you can talk about your problems. Mylot is the best place for you to share problems. In here there are a lot of mothers who have the same problem with you. You will feel you are not alone in this world. I hope my suggestion can help you. Have a nice day, my friend. And welcome again to mylot! Happy posting!

I am sorry to know that. Thats nice to know that atleast now you realize why your mother us to yell at you and shout that is just because of the stress which she might have had at that particular day, even I work and some times I really get angry and I shout at my small baby she is just 9 months old but that thing is I will not continue that for longer time, now a days I am controlling my anger when ever I am feeling stressed our or I am getting angry I just go and drink a glass of water and pray for a minute with in heart and then I am not shouting at my daughter at all, in fact I am taking care of her more properly , sometimes even though I am tired I am showing that on my baby even my baby is enjoying that mostly , you should control yourself and dont show the angry on children , I am sure if you can try your self to over come this with some or other way you will be the best mom!