What are the disadvantages of being over protective

Dont be too protective ....its may not be a good impact on ur children......just calm and try to understand wat they njoy and watch them properly.......may be they are behaving good in front of u but when they are getting freedom they are doing some stuffs which are not permissible.......try to become their frnd dont be too harsh for them

as a parent, i dont think im the watch closely type. i, of course, tell my son what's good and bad but i still let him decide. things are best learned with mistakes. i dont believe lessons will be learned without that.

Being overprotective just make your kids rebel against you...Best thing to do is make your children happy...Think about what they want and need...

I think every parent try's there best to be protective of there kids. In this time and age, you have to be over protective to your kids until they reach a certain age. There are so many sicko's in this world that preys on children. The limits is a good question. I think parents should give there kids some freedom as long as there's strings attached. I hear on the news all the time how kids are taken from there families. I watch my daughter as she gets on and off the bus. Back in 03, a 15 yr old was taken right in front of her driveway while waiting for the bus. They still haven't found her.

My mom was on the over protective side and I turned out ok. All parents worry about there kids, I'm 31 and my mom will go to her grave worrying about her kids. It's the price you pay, when the nurse laid that bundle of joy in your arms.

Children of overprotective parents can not deal with the outside World when they grow up, my father always made us go everywhere alone and take our own decisions - even for our college admissions - I went alone and came back to inform him - it may sound odd to people from other countries but in India all the children are accompanied by their parents even after college, for admissions and other official work.

As the saying goes too much of anything is bad... like too much alcohol, food sleep is bad. As i've experienced with my father who's really overprotective to the max it give more bad efefcts rather good. Being overprotective means not trusting your children, they are becoming dependent to you. I can't do this do that or your always around with them makes them grow or develop slower. And for me hatred develop and i became closer to my mom because she gives me freedom and made me liable on my own decisions.

Over protection with kids, i suppose it is just normal. Parent most likely solo parent must be overprotective. I don't know what is wrong with that. Maybe sometimes, the disadvantage is, your children got a little bit scared to try on something, coz they will know if they break you rule you will be angry with them or you will strict your rule. Another disadvantage is, they will avoid to decide with themselves and always rely on you on things because they wanna know your approval first. they don't have free mind. Protecting your children, i am not good at this, i don't have a kids of my own, i think you can protect them but on the otherside, explain to them what is your purpose so they will follow you and believe in you. If you have understanding along side with it, they will follow you, and you don't have to be overprotective.

hi smartie,
i feel over protectiveness of parents come from intense love and fear of losing their children. this, when crosses the limit could be damaging to the beautiful relationship. so, while in moderation its okay its not desirable to overdo it. having said this, no one does it deliberately. its rather a compulsive mental makeup which is hard to beat.
over protectiveness makes the cjildren hide simple facts which they would otherwise disclose to the parents. they get adamant and once they grow up they could do untoward things. but then, these are controllable. i feel, more damaging is the state of mind of the parent who resorts to overprotectiveness. the constant fear and panic kill them and they kind of die before actualy they do. this is sad.

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I think I'm a little overprotective also, but have relaxed a little. The other question you maybe could ask is, what are the consequences of being too relaxed with your kids?!! I think the hard thing is finding the right balance, to let your kids have enough fun and not be at risk of serious injuries. I haven't quite found the right balance, but in the meantime, I'd rather err on the side of caution!

In my opinion the degree of protectiveness a parent gives to a child is fully dependent on the way the child deals with the world. Obviously a parent is going to feel more protective than say a teacher and that can make it more difficult. As a parent I used to remember the things I did as a kid, like the risks I took and the trouble I got into, and responded to my kids accordingly. I don't think there are any hard and fast rules, but children do need to learn from their experiences.:-)