How will I cope?

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first i am very sorry about the loss of your baby. i know what that is like. losing someone you love is the worst thing in life because it is so final. no one can ever replace the ones we love either so that makes it all worse. i do not know what to say to lessen your suffering but just be there for her and tell her how much she has meant to you in this life and make your peace with her so you get a chance to say all the things to her you need to. you will always have her with you in your heart and in your mind because love never dies. i truly believe that. my best to you.

My friend, consider this as the time of your life where the wheel of life turns down and you are at the bottom of it striving to survive. Each and everyone of us experience hard times like this where we feel everything is turning against us. But believe me you will surpass all of this trials and hardships and time will come you will just look back and wonder how you made it and then admire yourself and realize that you are such a strong person. Without this happenings we won't grow strong. This is part and parcel of the spice of life. Just keep on going and have faith. Everything will be beautiful and perfect in His own time. Be patient.

Sweetheart the same strength that got you through the loss of your beautiful daughter will help you through your Grandma's illness! I'm praying that your Grandma will stay strong and that she is well treated by her doctors! If the worst were to happen then your strength and your friends will support you - isn't that what friends are for? I do understand how you feel about your Grandma - my Grandparent adopted and raised me after my mum (their daughter) died when I was 2 and they were parents and Grandparents all rolled into one! I lost my Grandad 9 years ago last Wednesday and I didn't think I would survive it but I did - my Grandmother is 83 now and I shudder when I try to imagine life without her! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family sweets! Hugs xxxx

Awwwwwww hun I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma! I know you two are very close, and you just lost baby a few months ago. All I can say is I am really sorry, but know that when the time comes for your Grandma I will be here for you just like I was with the passing of baby. I believe in some ways the "vows" of friendship are a lot alike as wedding vows ... "In good times & in Bad" I will be here! You have my word on that hun!

i really can relate to you..
my dad passed away almost two years now, but i still get to cry whenever i think of him..
as to your grandma, i pray she'll be ok....
you'll be ok to, mylot friends will be here to cheer you up

woo..ur brave

i will pray for ur grandmother..
may god bless u and u find all the hapiness in future

I have cancer stage IV no cure and trust me it is not the death sentence everyone predicts The most important thing is being Positive ..not easy when you see things happening so far i am lucky and after 2 years no difference in my life then before i was told I have had chemo every 2 weeks and am now at number 38 I had a topic all about the entire story of my cancer from beginning until July 2007

This might help a little

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

You've struggled with the diagnosis, treatment, and maybe the recurrence of cancer. Now doctors may have told you that you have advanced cancer. They may have said that your cancer is not responding to treatment and that long-term remission is no longer likely. Or they may have said they have run out of standard treatment options. However you learn the news, it can be devastating to you and your loved ones. Often it's hard to believe or accept at first.

"I have good days and bad days. But I try to let there be more good ones than bad, and focus on things in my life that I can control. I just do the best I can, enjoying family, friends, and the little things in life." - Louise

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This booklet stresses four main points:

* Learning more about ways you can help yourself may ease some of your concerns.
* Your treatment may change, but as always, you deserve to ask for and receive good medical attention from your health care team and support from your caregivers.
* It's important to talk about your worries, frustrations, and problems, and get support from others. In fact, it may be one of the best things you can do for yourself.
* As your medical care changes, you still have many choices. You can choose the way you wish to live each day.



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Hi Married in Saskachewan:

I'm am sorry about your baby, belated condolances.

Your grandma will go when God wants her to go. I just hope she isn't in any pain now.

God doesn't give us burdens we can't carry.

You have a hug from me.

Ivor