Trust

The thing is I've got her being sneaky about a situation lately and now she is turning it around on me. I am very disappointed to say the least. I may just have to chaulk it up to another bad experience with her. She has decided to be friends with someone from her past that caused both her and her daughter allot of grief. Me being the good friend supported them and now they are friends once again. It has left me in a terrible position. She wasn't up front with it and I'm not sure why. Why would you want to be friends with someone who treated you like that and someone you have bashed and gossiped about. I don't like the friend she is friends with but that's not the issue and it doesn't bother me. I just wanted honesty and truth.

I had a friend that I helped out because her husband abused her, she asked for help but then went back to him soon after. about all you can do is be there for your friend and hope that she comes to her senses. it sounds like your situation is much more complicated though. good luck, you seem like a really nice person and you friend is lucky to have you.

I will remain friends but it will never be the same. I know when the other person screws her around again it will be different. I won't be different because I will not be used again.

I am to nice lady bug and that's the problem. I've helped out the "problem" friend so much it was crazy. She is not someone I want as a friend. She abuses her kids so I went to Childrens Aid with another friend. I never hid what I did and I have no regrets.This friend I'm having trust issues with agreed with it but still wants to be her friend. I cannot stand by and watch someone abuse their kids and do nothing. So she can be her friend it sends the message that she condones her behavior. I don't and don't want to be a part of it. It is heart breaking to see kids not fed properly, not washed regularly, seeing her hit them, curse them out, send them to bed in clothes they been outside playing in all day. It just goes on and on and on.

sometimes we must know how to be more stronger than others! Dont just let our friend take advantage on us!
I just suggest "sometimes" and not for the all times!
Anyway,i'm sad to hear your story!

The saddest part is our friendship won't be the same. Trust is very important to me and it's hard to get it back.

Hi Ladybug,

We have sorted things out this morning.I know I will have to becareful of what I say because she is friends with someone I don't like. There is a long history and each of us has hand in it ending. I'm just disappointed I wasn't made aware of her rekindled frriendship. Some may say it's not my business but I was there for her when this friend treated both her and her daughter like garbage. I think a true friend would have been up front about it!

Hi. I think you are 100% right. good luck.

The friendship - what there is of it - won't be the same. Out of RESPECT she should have said something. I deserve that much.

The lady and I'm using that term loosly lol found out that we were friends again. My friend was up front with her and told her. I didn't get the same respect. I ask myself why she would be up front with her and not me. We have been really close now for almost a year. This person told her she had to choose one of us. Which I wold never ask anyone to do. Their friendship tapered off - I think. All of a sudden it's going strong again. It really makes me think if this is even worth dealing with.

I am so frustrated.

It's been over a week since she's been hanging out with the "friend" again. The emails have tapered off from 4-5 a day to barely one a day. The excuse I'm getting is "work is monitoring computer usage". Am I a fool to believe this after almost a year? Now they want to come over and hang out Saturday. I said sure but my heart is telling me no - cancel. I am very hurt over this whole thing. She has bashed this friend so now I'm wondering if I'm being bashed now.

I just don't know what to do.

No it isn't. The funniest thing is the friend she is friends with again is treating her like garbage again. I also found out that the reason "the friend" is back around is because she had a falling out with a close friend of hers. So, she went back to the one she treated like garbage out of convience. Same old crap all over again. I refuse to be involved in it. It isn't worth my time and energy to worry about what they choose to do or base their friendship on!