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myLot reputation of 54/100. rachelnextdoor (133)   ranked 9,794 out of 19,193 in relationships 5 years ago

Basically, picture this: you've been with a romantic partner for a while, maybe even in love, but you're still exploring things together, finding out what you enjoy and what you don't. All the basics are there, no problems, but learn that you don't share similar kinks, fetishes, or fantasies. What turns your partner on makes you uncomfortable, or even sick or angry, or maybe it bores you to distraction. And vice versa!

How do you deal with this situation? Or do you?

 

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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. sarahruthbeth22 (15787)   ranked 22 out of 19,193 in relationships   5 years ago

This a new relationship? If so, maybe you can just be friends because if what turns you on makes your partner uncomfortable,you can't both have a pleasurable time.If there isn't a middle ground, you should just be friends and find someone that enjoys what you enjoy.


myLot reputation of 54/100. rachelnextdoor (133)   ranked 9,794 out of 19,193 in relationships  5 years ago

This discussion isn't about a specific relationship issue I'm having. But since this happens in most relationships I've been in, I wanted to know how others have faced the challenge. Many of my previous partners have enjoyed something or things I've found uncomfortable, degrading, or excruciatingly painful. Sometimes, I've split with them over it. Others, I've just taken it. I wanted to see what the prevailing attitude was on that.

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2. myLot reputation of 61/100. habichuelo (2197)   5 years ago

exacly!!!,,,but i havent had a romantic partner that have moves,,im always the one who do everything,,and nobody had done anything to me yet,,talking about fetishes and kinks,,i hadnt have any luck yet having a romantic partner with a great kink or any fantasies or fetish....i hate this....i need somebody to surprise me and SOOOOONN!!!!!!!!

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. lkbooi (9346)   ranked 3,583 out of 19,193 in relationships   5 years ago

Hi rachelnextdoor, normally if a couple doesn’t share the same kinds then many problems would arise. As times go by the intimate relation would fade as they have different liking in life. They will find it difficult to get along together as they have no common interest. They would have much more problems due to different opinions. The best compromise is to try to have more mutual concession with give and take if they still want to continue their relationship.

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4. myLot reputation of 76/100. Mayuko (823)   1 month ago

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