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myLot reputation of 85/100. oneandonemakesix (23975) 5 years ago

My husband received notice of my former landlord passing away.

Part of me wants to go outside and scream hallelujiah and Thank you Lord.

Let me first say there is no lost love between me and him, and my last words to him were in anger and upset with him.

He took information he had privy to because of his business and being my landlord, a background check...needless to say a lot of it was partial truths and things that are private to a person like the fact that I was arrested due to prescribed medications, and overdosing, and the fact that he said the state took my kids because they thought I was a threat to harming them....the fact that I overdosed and he claimed I was arrested, which is not true, there WAS a police report the 2nd time, but I WAS NOT arrested, he blabbed my credit past, husbands credit past fincial history and laughed about it. He laughed about that he didn't have to take care of the house, because he was selling it and it was going to be bulldozed etc, etc etc...

I know its not right to be so happy about this, but he bragged about calling the police on me for 'yelling at my kids' and calling CPS service on me, and flat out denied it to my face when I confronted him, and all over the US to his friends.....he is one who tries to make himself look better while putting others down.

So while I know I should be respectful, and not feel this way, I do

I'm not sad he died, of cancer, he refused treatment, and wanted to dictate his life, not on recomendation of the doctors.

I think the only thing I wanted him to say was yes I did it, i'm sorry.....but that day will never happen, and the last words I spoke to him were out of hurt and anger, and even to turn even ice blue.

Mooch

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1. myLot reputation of 80/100. ian1010 (270)   ranked 23,189 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

it's a sad thing you did not get the chance to talk about your problems before he died.,


myLot reputation of 96/100. webeishere (12986)   ranked 371 out of 32,957 in life  5 years ago

Under these circumastances mentioned I don't think I
would have wanted to talk to them either as I would
be so irate and afraid of what I would have said.
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2. myLot reputation of 96/100. webeishere (12986)   ranked 371 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

Holy Smokes. One thing, why did he get word of the landlords death? I wouldn't want nor need to know of a past landlords death unless he was a friend. Anyhow. My wife and I were landlords for amny years when we lived in apartments etc. Not once can I recall ever revealing any info as far as credit or personal refreneces yet alone criminal records. That's a bit out of line to say the least. He should have been reported to the managemnet company or whomever he answered to. If he owned the place then he should have been reported to the better business bureau. This is way out of line for one in charge so to speak of peoples personal lives. I don't feel sorry he died either and I don't even know this man. Have a great day/evening.
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3. myLot reputation of 74/100. everlasting (9950)   5 years ago

I can not blame you. he was so judgemental and as if we can not change our ways. There are people who will bring into their graves the bad vibes they have with other people.

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4. myLot reputation of 95/100. angel_of_charm (2772)   ranked 539 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

with all that he caused you? who am i to tell and jugde you on what you should feel or not..i cant blame you nor am i blaming you for feeling that way..he suck up your life and thats it..but your right still..he is dead now and cannot do you harm again..and needless to say we should give him a lil respect at least even if he did not respected you and all..he suffered from what he had caused you and he may have caused others..i respect your feelings after all what he did.

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5. myLot reputation of 67/100. anniepa (11669)   ranked 1,557 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

Mooch, there's no reason for you NOT to feel this way! You're a human being, even though this man certainly didn't treat you like one, so it wouldn't be normal for you to feel any other way! I think it says alot more about you as a person for you to express your true feelings rather than to say "Ooh, I feel so bad, I said bad things about this poor man, but I didn't want this to happen,...blah, blah, blah..." We've probably all seen situations like that before. You say you know you should be respectful; respect is something that should be earned, not given automatically. This man was clearly not a very nice person and being dead doesn't change that, Mooch. He did things that were unethical and maybe even illegal. When someone is able to get information on others under certain circumstances isn't some of that information supposed to be confidential? I know when I delivered mail there was such a thing as "Confidentiality if the U.S. Mail" that stated we were not allowed to talk about private business we may be privy to through delivering certified letters and things like that. In other words, we were not supposed to go around and tell about someone not paying their taxes or being taken to court over something. Anyway, this man was cruel and unfair to you and no doubt disrupted your life. Who wouldn't feel some joy over his not being able to hurt you anymore? If he'd lived to be 100 you'd never have gotten that "I'm sorry" out of him! I've always wanted to believe what goes around comes around...or is it the other way around...LOL. Everyone gets "theirs" one way or another, one time or another. His time has come and if there is a heaven and hell I guess we know where he is now! Dont's waste your guilt or grief on the likes of this man. Cheer up!
Annie

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6. myLot reputation of 95/100. vmks31 (7459)   5 years ago

I am sorry this has happened to you but i donot thing it is healthy mood for all those pent up emotions .As i have mentioned a few times i have Cancer stage IV and i hope and pray there is no one out there that will be happen when i am called to my next life. Sad to say but we all have a few persons that turn our blood pressure on ..Hearing your side of the story you have my sympathy and I hope the next landlord is more to your likening Remind me never to get on your bad side Good Luck

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7. myLot reputation of 86/100. razcal2267 (9670)   5 years ago

After reading the situation I do not blame you for feeling that way at all. How did your husband receive this notice. Sorry, I have to ask because it just seems a bit odd to me that someone would get notice about an ex landlord. I can not say that if I were in your shoes that I would not feel the same way that you do.


myLot reputation of 85/100. oneandonemakesix (23975)  5 years ago

he received it via email, I didn't look when it was sent, but it was a forward from the former landlords account.

About funeral notices.

My husband is NOT good at checking his mail, so its probably been there for a while, but there is something I did not mention in my story.

This man was a 'know' Pastor in the community, my husband was friends with him before he bacame our landlord, we just didn't know about his 'double side' until well over a year after we moved into his house.

I'm still not sorry....I can't help it.

Mooch

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8. myLot reputation of 96/100. TerryZ (11452)   ranked 272 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

Oh wow if he did that to me I would feel the same way you do. What a evil man! You have every right to not be sad for this person that died. Why would you be sad that this man died? Your acting like any human being would.

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9. myLot reputation of 91/100. mgmagana (2469)   5 years ago

wow, i think i have that much anger towards my father in law and that the day he passes i won't be sad! maybe sad for my husband but not b/c he passed!IMO wut he did was wrong, so u have every right to feel the way u do!

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10. myLot reputation of 100/100. maribea (1161)   ranked 6,274 out of 32,957 in life   5 years ago

of course I do agree that it is a mistake being happy because a person died. but I am also the sort of person who thinks that death doesn't cancel all the bad things one did in his or her life. I am not in favour of the old way of saying...he or she was a good soul, after all. we all have to die and a death is always a sad thing and ask for respect because there are people who are grieving and a life is over but....I repeat this doesn't mean we have to forget all the pain a person caused...there is only a fact..time passes and if we survive...well we can always find something to learn from our life..this happened to me at least! I am sorry about what happened to him because he suffered but I am also sorry that you had to go through all this pain and sorrow! I hope you are feeling better now and that you can forget all the bad things..this is the only way to live...

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