We did it finally (DNA test)!
By jennybianca
@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
September 2, 2007 9:06pm CST
Finally we have done it. We ordered a DNA test kit. Today, my husband did his sample for the test. I had already collected samples from my 13 year old step son. Details were filled in, permission form filled in & now it's posted. It takes about ten days to get the results back. This is a Paternity test. My husband is almost certain that his son, is not really his son.
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13 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Sep 07
Wow. I hope everything goes the way you and your husband want it.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
I am not sure what my husband wants the results to be? I think he has accepted the reality.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Sep 07
It can be heartbreaking any way it turns out. I hope you can help one another through this. And if you need help , I hope you can seek it out. Take care.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
I think my husband will be quite anxious waiting for the results.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
3 Sep 07
Oh that is so sad, so a child that you have called your own for 13 years to find out it is not yours, I couldn't do it myself, a child is a child, it is not their fault who there mother or father is, nor should they have to go through any separation anxiety if it turns out that you are not his family, oh how sad. I hope it all turns out good for everyone concerned.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Yes, it is sad, & it is not the childs fault we realise. The trouble is these things have a nasty habit of coming back at you, when in adulthood the child has blood tests or whatever for medical reasons & finds out he is not his sons father.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Yes, yoiu are correct. MNy step sons made is terrible, & has caused a huge rift betweenh the children.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Yes, and it is impiortant now that we know the truth, in view of recent developments.
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@BinKsBaBy (505)
• United States
4 Sep 07
WOW Thats crazy, After 13 years of bonding! I am curious to know that if the DNA results will really change much in your family? I mean it sounds like your hubby has been a "father" for all these years and Im sure that you as well have became attached to your step son, so if you guys find out that he isnt the biological father will you still be in his life. i hope so and I hope t hat the mother (if shes involved) wont stop you guys from being a part of his life. The best of luck to you and your family!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Sep 07
There is no way my husband will give up his son if the results are negative.
What he will do is sue his ex for deception over nearly 14 years.
The son also has a right top know his bilogical background.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
11 Sep 07
We should find out in the next couple of days.
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@BinKsBaBy (505)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Good Im glad to hear that I did not think that you or your husband would turn your back on your son. I hope that you have luck with sueing his ex for the return of support all though I have heard that it is a hard case to win, because the courts feel that if you had reason to beleive that the child may not be yours that you then should have went about filing a DNA, but none the less you have the fact that the ex would have never signed off on court ordered DNA testing on your guys side. I will hope for the best for you and your family please cotinue to keep us informed! =)
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
3 Sep 07
I am sorry to hear that his son may not really be his son. I am sure he is upset. I think it is good that you have decided to get the DNA test done. I believe it is better to know, regardless of what the result. I hope the next few days are not too nerve racking for you.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Yes, we believe it is better to know now, not in the distant future when blood tests could prove a shock.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I hope that the results come out that he is his son. It would be so devestating to his son to find out differently.
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@GardenGerty (169436)
• United States
3 Sep 07
So, did the boy's mother have to sign on that as well? Did she do so willingly? I feel like I have missed a discussion or two. For awhile I did not get any notifications. The last I knew you were hiring a lawyer because of false accusations against your daughter. I will go check your profile and see what I have missed. If he is not your husband's son does the mom owe a repayment of back child support? This is very interesting.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
There is no way my step sons mother would sign anything. She doesn't even know. Thats why we ordered the "non-court" test. These will probably be banned in the near future, so we thought we had better get one while we could.
Dave knew from the moment his ex was pregnant, that there was a strong possibilty he was not the father ( due to her infidelity , not lack of sperm.) I don't think he came to grips with this until a few years ago.
Gradually he dropped hints to his son, as we thought that by trying to cover it up forever, might have big implications if his son found out later.
Things came to a head in the last few weeks, due to the situation I mentioned in my discussions).
So Dave thought he would get this DNA test done. His son doesn't know, as we got the sample from his toothbrush. If the result is negative, which is Dave is fairly certain it will be, he will stop maintenance. This will have legal implications, big ones. We will be one of the few tests cases around the country. He would also like to sue for past maintenance, & that could be even harder to do.
He doesn't intend rejecting his son, in fact, he can live with us fulltime if he wants, which we have repeatedly told him he could do.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
25 Sep 07
Hi Jenny,
Here in India we have a long way to go.
DNA test kit - sounds interesting but was there really any urgency to go for it, specially when the little boy whom you have considered your own, is concerned. You must have your own reasons but its scary, more from the kid's side.
Do keep us updated.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Regardless of the outcome I am sure you will feel better knowing the truth instead of always having the "is he, isn't he" feeling hanging over your husband
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Sep 07
This is true. And in view of current recent, very bad events, we needed this test done.
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@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
22 Sep 07
How did the test turn out? I'm sorry you even have to question paternity. It must be tough and heartwrenching. My hubby has a grown daughter who is 27 and never has had a paternity test done. I wish he would, but he said in his heart she is his daughter and he worries what it would do to her to find out otherwise. But she had a stepfather who raised her and he possibly could have been her natural father also, and she loved him I think more than her own "dad". She had his name tattooed on her wrist. I wish my hubby would go ahead and do this though b/c I think he has faily members who would contest to her getting anything when property is being divided, etc.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Sep 07
I hope you received my PM replying to your questions.
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@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
25 Sep 07
No I have not yet rec'd a PM from you. Maybe it takes a little longer for it to show up. Hope all is well.
