We did it finally (DNA test)!  

I am not sure what my husband wants the results to be? I think he has accepted the reality.

It can be heartbreaking any way it turns out. I hope you can help one another through this. And if you need help , I hope you can seek it out. Take care.

Thank you.

I think my husband will be quite anxious waiting for the results.

Im sure that he would be.....

Yes, it is sad, & it is not the childs fault we realise. The trouble is these things have a nasty habit of coming back at you, when in adulthood the child has blood tests or whatever for medical reasons & finds out he is not his sons father.

Yes, and it is impiortant now that we know the truth, in view of recent developments.

Yes, yoiu are correct. MNy step sons made is terrible, & has caused a huge rift betweenh the children.

So it could be an emotional blessing in disguise kind of thing.

Yes, we believe it is better to know now, not in the distant future when blood tests could prove a shock.

There is no way my step sons mother would sign anything. She doesn't even know. Thats why we ordered the "non-court" test. These will probably be banned in the near future, so we thought we had better get one while we could.
Dave knew from the moment his ex was pregnant, that there was a strong possibilty he was not the father ( due to her infidelity , not lack of sperm.) I don't think he came to grips with this until a few years ago.
Gradually he dropped hints to his son, as we thought that by trying to cover it up forever, might have big implications if his son found out later.

Things came to a head in the last few weeks, due to the situation I mentioned in my discussions).
So Dave thought he would get this DNA test done. His son doesn't know, as we got the sample from his toothbrush. If the result is negative, which is Dave is fairly certain it will be, he will stop maintenance. This will have legal implications, big ones. We will be one of the few tests cases around the country. He would also like to sue for past maintenance, & that could be even harder to do.
He doesn't intend rejecting his son, in fact, he can live with us fulltime if he wants, which we have repeatedly told him he could do.



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Absolutely. We agree. My husband has made it very clear that he will not reject his son, regardless of the results. He has made it clear in the not so distant past too, that his son is welcome to live with us fulltime.

AWWWW
That is great.
I am so very glad to have my initial opinion of you reinforced.
I think you are a very nice person and have been enjoying getting to know you and your family and it would have shocked me if he did reject his son. Susan

There was no way I would be with my husband if he was any different.
Thank you very much for your lovely comments. I really enjoy communicating with you too.