Potty training a 3 yr old

I don't think it's your problem to have to train him - she should be training him. How old are the children you have at your daycare? Do you normally change soiled diapers? If so, she is probably figuring what's the difference if you have to change him if he goes in his pull-up. I know the preschool where my daughter went if they weren't potty trained they had to be in pull-ups and if the peed - they stayed in the pee pee pull up till the end of the day and if they pooped in the pull-up - their parents were called to come and change them. If you've always changed him - then I'm assuming she figures you'll just change him if he goes pee or poo. I think pull ups are a waste except for during the night. She should have had him totaly trained since she was home with him all summer. I trained my little guy in 2 weeks flat over the summer and he's 2 1/2.

It doesn't sound like he 'potty's' at home on the toilet at all. I think she's giving you the hook, line & sinker. If you can afford it I'd tell her she needs to potty train as you're too busy during the day with all of the kids to take the time to potty train HER child.Lori

When kids wear pullups they know they can pee in them and it will not go through so they wil just go in them that is how my daughter was. I put underwear on her and she would go in the potty everytime but when we went somwhere I would put a pull up on her so she wouldn't have an accident and she would pee in it becasue she knew she could so I just started putting only underwear on her.
That is probaly why he is going to the bathroom at home his mom probaly has underwear on him. Kids don't go number 2 that often I would try letting him wear underwear and see what happens if he does pee in his underwear too then if definately is not potty trained.
Good luck decideing what to do.

just tell him to go in the toilet and he can get to be the leader of a group activity im only 13 but i know children i have 8 little brothers and sisters all younger i tought 3 how to be potty trained

my 2 boys didnt train until first boy was 3 and second was 3 in half...

i dont think he is ready..maybe he should be in diapers and wait till he says he needs to go..
pushing the subject isnt going to work cause it seems he cant hold it and if he cant he wont be able to train yet...

some boys are just really late trainers..
u may want to tell her to have the doc check him just incase..
but with my boys thisis what my doc said..if they cant hold it they wont be able to no matter how much u want them too
better to have them let u know when they are ready..
if he doesnt show signs by say close to 4 i would even drop his ped a note...he might have a problem with muscle control...

I agree with you, he is SO NOT potty trained, it seems she's just left it too late to start & now he's too reliant on using his pull up & doesn't want to actually use a toilet.
I plan on starting my daughter soon (she's now 15 months) - i can only see how she goes but i've noticed when she wants to pee, she will squat down on occasions!
Maybe you should inform her that you can no longer be caring for her child if she cant get him properly toilet trained. It's hard but you cant be held responsible for working out when someone elses child needs to go to the toilet, while you have other children around that also need to be cared for.
With you saying he'd rather use his pull-up, i'd probably say she hasn't made much effort to potty train him which is why he's still not trained at 3 - well, not close to being trained.
Maybe you should sit down & discuss it with her & see what she can come up with.
Good Luck!

I feel sorry for the little boy. From the sounds of it his mom is very busy working and perhaps she doesn't have the time to potty train him, not a very good excuse I know, poor little kid. He is really at an age where he should be somewhat potty trained. U need to have a serious chat with Mom methinks. Between the 2 of you it should be easy enough within 2 weeks. Even though its not your responsibility, it would really speed up the process if Mom and you could work together on this one.

Good luck

I agree with the first response, its not your job to potty train him. Maybe the kid isnt getting enough attention from his mom. I used to babysit a 3 year old and he done things just to get his moms attention. And what she was asking you to do was completely unacceptable. Just keep trying while you have him at daycare and maybe it will work out for the best.

I personally would give the mother a fact sheet on potty training and what the signs of a toddler ready to potty train are if the child isn't infact ready.

A LOT of kids are ashamed of doing poo and do it in their underwear, I know with many centres i've dealt with are much happier to ask the child often if they need to go to the toiler and ask the mother to bring another pair of underwear along, then if toddler is DEFFINATELY not going to the toilet they would ask you to bring nappies and wait till the child is really ready to train, and help train them whilst at daycare, that's what daycare is for, not only to watch children but to feed, change, and take care of the children, you're basicly a mother to the children, it sounds like you've got too much on your plate or you're doing it alone, most centres have a min of 3 teachers to a room, but if in the case that the child isnt ready i'm sorry if this sounded rude, and i'd really give her some fact sheets and demand that e wears nappies.

goodluck.

Don't feel bad.I was a daycare teacher anh had a child sater that was 5 years old.Yes 5 and was not potty trained.I got tied of changing him,so after afew mistakes I woul give him a washcloth and make him clean himself and change himself.Problem was solved in 2 weeks.I would tell his parents that that is what you are going to do.(with supervision from you of course,just to make sure the child gets clean.)If they feel they feel this is too harsh I am sure you can fill his spot with another child.I have a 1 and a half year old in my daycare that never has an accident!She evn stays the night sometimes and will dress herself with no help!