What would you do?

hey dolphinbrat21,I'm sorry I can't help much but why don't you get along with your in laws?And about your nephew and his gf,if you're older,you have the rights to tell them to at least contribute for the house or chip in for food or a family meal or soomething.I think you'll need some help from your hubby.Goodluck!

Well, I'd say you have two choices. Stay there or move.

If you stay there, you can either learn to get along with everyone and be friends or you can stay away from the ones causing you problems.

If you move, you need to be prepared to handle everything on your own with just your fiance and your self.

It's never easy living with other ppl and some ppl are a major pain in the butt. No one can make a decision as to what you will do...you have to decide that one.

I know it's easy to get mad and leave but don't let your anger make your decisions.

**AT PEACE WITHIN**

~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Don't get mixed up in the family mess. Stay cool but cordial. If there are problems in the future, you don't want to be at the center of them.

The next thing I would consider doing is finding a part time job, saving your money and looking to get out of there.

It sounds like so many people in close proximity could make it difficult for your husband and you - talk about a lack of privacy and to establish your husband and you as a family onto yourselves.

I would try to avoid them as much as possible, for both inner and outer peace. And would continue to do the right thing myself by helping to clean and pay.. It's unfortunate when these things happen, but it will likely work out better if others form their own conclusions about the nephew and girlfriend, and they likely will. But if you are the one to say things, it's more likely (ironically) to backfire and put you in a bad light.. Not fair, but who ever said life is fair? We can only remain true and do the right thing ourselves, which ultimately will bring greater happiness and satisfaction than such an attitude as the nephew and wife have ever will.. (over the long run that is).
Good Luck!:)

Oh dolphin, I feel for you hon.
I have had to deal with others in varying living situations that didn't do squidly to contribute.
You are in for a rough road, sorry to say. This is a very hard situation to deal with and you will have to get some excellent coping skills and very quickly. I am speaking from experience, because as long as this is your situation, however annoying and downright wrong it is, it's you that is going to suffer, if you don't find a way to ignore these things that bother you.
You see, the others are not going to change on your account, this is plain, and I believe you already know this. So my thoughts are that you have to do the best you possibly can and just do what you need to do for you.
It is unpleasant to say the least that you are dealing with this, but you and only you can make your world a little brighter. There is no one solution, but be busy with your own goals and be as tolerant as you possibly can to them.
And when you break free of this situation, you will be even more grateful once you and your fiance can either get your own place or the nephew moves out.
Good Luck and Welcome to myLot as well!
Regards
Your Friend
RozAnn..TheHairDresser

I wouldn't like it I would move out. just move out if you don't get alone with them, I wouldn't dare stay with a person and can't get alone with them, it is too stressful. You want to be comfortalble where you live.

honey, what you need to do is get out!! do whatever you have to do to get out and find your own place you and your man and your child(ren). i have been in a situation something like this and it is way to stressful and not a good idea at all! find a sitter and get to work. i think that is the best thing to do

I have learned over the years it is lots better to tend to my own knitting and not to care what others do or don't. It is not my business and I therefore don't let it affect me.

If you can't do anything about it right now (and you can't in the near future) then adjust to not paying it any attention whatsoever and you will be better off.

Thats a bad position to be in for sure. The thing to remember here is that it is not your home or your battle. It is your mother and father in laws responsibility. It is they that need to work this problem out. You should not feel resentful that you and your fiance' do help, that is what you should be doing. To keep the peace in the home I would talk it over with his parents. This is what I would do, and just my opinion. Good luck with it, really a tough spot to be in.

This would be soooo frustrating. To answer your question, I would probably start looking for my own place! It amazes me how some people think they can just go through life sponging off other people. And what's worse is they don't care! You know you and your fiance are doing the right thing so just keep that in mind. When you and him finally move out you'll be glad to get out of there and you can move forward with your life knowing that you're doing a lot better than your nephew and his girlfriend. Have you spoken to your in-laws about this? What do they say? Personally, I would politely ask them to do their bit around the house, or perhaps you could ask your in-laws to make up a cleaning roster. Good luck with this-I know I wouldn't be able to put up with it!