Do Ever feel freinds donn't want to see you when you're down?

I always feel this, I guess this is why when I am down which seems to happen a lot lately I just lock myself away until I get over it but I have never been one to share my miserys..

Many times I feel that some of my friends are avoiding me because I am down.
However, when I think from their point of view, or about their conditions I feel that if they are avoiding me they are not doing wrong thing. This is because many times I have come to know that they were avaoding me because they were not in a position to help me. So they were feeling sorry.
I will tell you my own example. One of my very old friend lost his wife after brief illness at a very young age. Now at once I went to him and consoled him. He was so sad that he could not say anything. That made me so sad and that face of a friend quite often came before me for so many days.
He is far away from me and I am not in a position to help him in any way. So now I am avoiding him. May be he is not feeling well about it.....

This is a tough one. I know what you are going through as i lost a very close relative a couple of months ago and since then i have found that people respond differently to me.

Neighbours actually crossed the road so they didnt have to speak to me and colleagues avoided me too. But, I had a very good friend who stood by my side and said if i needed a shoulder to cry on to call her anytime and she would be there. That in itself was of great comfort to know that i wasnt alone.

Its difficult for people who havent been affected by a bereavement to know how to respond to you. They might think you want to be left alone, or they let their own fears get in the way because there is nothing anyone can do or say to console someone who has suffered a bereavement. Plus it is often difficult for your friends to see you in pain. They want to help but just dont know how.

Its very much a case of you find out who your real friends are when a crisis happens.

Time is a healer though and you will start to feel better in the months to come. x

My last ex boyfriend, when him and I broke up, my friend at the time didn't want to talk to me at all. Cause she was still upset about her boyfriend who'd broken up with her like 6 months prior. SHe was also busy Moving Out of State and not telling me. So basically she wasn't really a friend.

I think that's the problem. people who don't want to be there for you when you're down are just really not much your friend.

This does not mean they don't mean you well. Not everyone wants to be around sad people. Remember they could also be going through something of their own. It's sounds selfish to limit a friendship that way. I am down a lot and my friends know it. I don't go around them with this. I stay to my self in my home talking to them by phone. It's life we all have to deal with it.

Yes, and I let them have their space when they are like that.

yeah that happens to me unless your friends are emo then they are happy to hang out with you when you are down!

Oh my god, tell me about it! I hate these "fair-weather" friends. I used to rally around my mates when they were down and buy them flowers and chocolates and all the rest of it and when it came to me being miserable. I didn't hear a peep from any of them.
I have been suffering from depression recently, and I've been very down with marital problems, and I have had one friend see me in the whole 2 and a half months that I've been off work. How is that fair?
Personally, I think my family is the same. I very rarely hear from them unless they want something and all of that just ends up making me feel worse.
You know you'll always have friends here on Mylot, moan away, cry away, do whatever you need to do, we'll all be right here listening.
I'm sorry for your loss, but please remember, there's always someone there to listen x

This must be hard for you.at first I want to tell you how sorry i am for your lost.And you are right those are not realy friend probably if they are turning back to when you need them.This is really sad, when they don't want share with you your sadness but only when you are happy.Hope you would find people who will be real friends for you and able to share with you evertyhing and all the time.

Unfortunately there are many people who are like this, and it is Sad that people are like this. I too over the course of my life have had many difficult times, and sometimes unless a person can relate with what you are going thru, they tend to stray away. I do relate with your pain though as I lost my Mom last month and somedays I just really feel no one understands.

You need to find things you enjoy and work thru the Bad days and remember things do get better. If you are a Praying person this does help as well, and makes things a little easier too. Wishing you the best.