When your child is disagreeable...  

I wish I had some advice for you. My daughter had much the same problem with her now 13 year old son. From the day she brought him home from the hospital he was a problem. His formula was changed a number of times but nothing worked. He would projectile vomit for no reason. It was a horrible experience. Unfortunately my daughter and her b/f split up after over 20 years and her son just went to live with his father because it had come to his physically abusing her. At the age your son is at I would say keep showing him that you are the boss and won't deal with his stubborness or strong will. You set the rules of behavior in your house and that's the way it is no doubts about it! Good luck with that little guy!

Sounds like you're having a rough time. Have you spoken with his doctor about the behavior issues? The doctor may have some answers. My daughter has a strong will herself. she is now 4 but at 18 months she decided "no more diapers" while on the changing her one day, and bam ! a kick and my teeth were loose. I had to go to the dentist. As a family we are in a program here that starts at birth, and goes to age 5 called Parents as Teachers they have activities and a teacher you meet with and they show you creative parenting techniques, while our child learns something each time we meet. As for the biting my brother (Now 31) was a biter, one day he bit me and my mom had had enough and bit him back. I don't know that I recommend that approach, but I know my brother never bit anyone again. Maybe look for a parent group in your area for support.

A friend of mine did, her son was about 6 months old and when the child did not get his way, he would bash his head on floors, walls, toys anything..sometimes until it bled.

He was eventually diagnosed with oppositional defiance disorder. He is now considering get a PhD in electrical or chemical engineering. I added this so you know, a bad diagnosis is not all bleak...with treatment he did manage to work through his problems.

Oh my! I don't think any of my children were THAT strong willed. I do have some picky kids. When my youngest who also happens to be boy was that young, he was just picky about things. So I gave in to help him feel safe until he could learn to cope with imperfection as he grew older and matured some.

All my kids seem to be able to cope with change or at least accept it to a point that it wasn't a trauma.

It just sounds like to me, he is trying to find out what he can have control over. When it is possible, give him a choice. But only 2 choices. Any more than that will overwhelm him at his young age. But when there are no choices, such as whether or not he is to be buckled in the car, give him a redirect such as, "you can bring this toy or book while we are in the car. But buckling in is a must, even mommy has to do it. You can have your toy when you are buckled."

These are just examples. You know what your child likes best. You know what his currency is and just use that. I hope these suggestions help.

Giving a strong-willed child choices will also give him a sense of independence. It will cut down on power struggles by making him think he has the power although you are the one who does because you gave him the safest and smartest choices to choose from.

*wink*

Well my little girl is 2 and she doesnt bit to be mean she does it when playing around i have done the whole time out and smaking bit but it doesnt work either.ol everyone tells me well they wont do it again if they know what it feels like...so biute her back
i cannot bring myself to do that i just stick somthing really nasty in her mouth when she does it...it limits it but she still does it somtime. u might wanna try that and see if it works.