what should I do?

Thanks for your advice and for sharing your story but I wasn't offended because he talked to other girls I was offended because he was telling me that girls were interested in him and that he was so cute and great and different from other boys. I felt or a) he wanted me to feel privileged because he (such a cute boy wanted by all the other girls) was talking to ME and that made me feel offended because he was actually telling me he was very important and I, nobody, was lucky he even wanted to talk to me. (Wouldn't you feel offended by?) or b) he wanted to tell me that all the girls wanted him because that way maybe he thought I'd want him too. And that made me feel offended because I am not just some stupid girl who likes what everybody else likes. If he wanted something he might have said something and not behave like a jerk. That's why I asked him what he had meant with all that but he never responded and that's why I deleted him. We have never talked about any girls in particular so I didn't even have anything to be jealous about.

Oh, ok, then I'm not so sure I would have been offended as I would have just thought what a jerk, and I'd have done the same thing. And I would have figured, ok, if he wants to apologize or explain, he has my email. But, that would have been the end of it. Sorry for mis-reading your discussion.

Thanks, I asked him for an explanation about a month ago in my last e-mail but he never wrote back until today when he wanted to chat. But you are right, I'll just tell him to explain me what happened then or I will never talk to him again. And if he explains ok if he doesn't then I really don't have time to bother with this kind of people. Thanks a lot for replying to my post. Sometimes we get to the most clever ideas if someone pushes us towards them.

Ah, but I would be careful not to phrase it as an ultimatum. I'd just ask him for an explanation and let him respond. People respond differently and often not as honestly if they think there is a lot at stake. And you do want to know the truth of it. Just listen for a bit. He doesn't have to know that there is a big decision coming. Of course if he asks directly, I'd tell him, but be careful not to add pressure to an already sensitive situation.

I know, I never chat with anybody just that one time I went to the chat and I met him and we talked about everything and nothing. It just took me by surprise what he said. I don't chat, I mean, why should I waste my letters on msn when I can be paid for them here, right?

yes you are right but it doesn't mean you can't meet someone nice, I belong to an Australian non paying forum and every chats away together and sometimes they have meets in the different towns and I know a few of the younger ones have hooked up, but that is a little different to chatting one to one...

I think there is a line to be drawn and a time and a place for everything, including the role-play and the "safety"/anonymity the internet provides.
In some chat rooms, where it is acknowledged not to be necessarily real or realistic, it is okay to exaggerate. In games like Everquest or World of Warcraft it is almost expected. Again though there is a time and a place for everything and individuals should still be respectful of other's feelings/perceptions.

In forums and chat rooms, most of the time people are expected to be their "real" selves. How far is it okay to stretch into a person you prefer to be? Is it a lie to try to be your ideal self?

Hard lines to draw. Now I've written so much on the subject, I think I'm going to start a new discussion about it and see what others think?

I love that!

Thank you. I don't expect him to apologize, it would be nice if he did it but he didn't do it so I don't even talk to him any more nor I respond to his invitations to chat.

Why should I offend? You said what's true. I just an impulsive person and when something happens I get upset but 10 minutes after that I just forget all about it. You are right and I thing I felt offended by his words because I've spend hour talking to a jerk and I could have been doing something useful. Thanks

Maybe you are right but he is some 1000 miles away from me and I wouldn't SEND him any money. Well I will not talk to him any more. I made a mistake chatting at first place.

I don't know. I am very impulsive person so I react very emotionally to stuff that I shouldn't but I forget them in a while so yesterday when he invited me for a chat I was pretty upset because of the cheek that guy has but today I just don't care any more. If someone else had used his computer he would had explained this in the email I sent him time ago. Thanks for your advice.