What do you do for "ME" Time?
By dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
United States
February 19, 2008 9:29am CST
With the world in such turmoil. From problems abroad to right here day to day drama, It is a must that we find something to help us "relax" if you will. As an adult business woman, mother, wife, and human being I am faced with issues on a day to day basis. I have a daughter who is in a second remission from leukemia and have come through a fire about a year and a half ago to where we lost everything. We literally had nothing to call our own. Anyone who has been thru this knows that its the parents duty to be calm, strong, and reassuring for the children. I was. Now I find myself uptight, resentful, and troubled sometimes. I have tried counseling and I attend church on a regular basis. It wasnt enough. I began to realize that I needed some "ME" time. Me time is a scheduled time each day or week (depending on the activities that need me that week)where I do something that I love. For me this is beading. I love the feel of beads, the way they look, and what can be created with just a few beads. Through beading I am able to express my feelings in a way that helps me and hurts no one. Its a perfect solution. When I have completed a project, I have a sense of relaxation but also I have pride. As mothers, girlfriends, wives,and friends there is a notion that we are always in control. This is not always true. By creating a specific time for me, I am allowing myself to wind down and face my own issues. Beading is it for me. How do you relax? DO YOU HAVE"ME"TIME?
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7 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
I have lots of stuffs in my mind when alone, I could listen to music, play my guitar and even read a book. Or I could take a nap and rest for a bit, then watch television or even go out with friends and play some basketball.
Fortunately, I still don't have any responsibility to take care of like a family of my own. So I'd like to enjoy the freedom I have, then maybe adjust and make some changes when my time of having my own family comes..
This is how I spend my time alone, my ME time!;)
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Feb 08
The plans for your future are very smart. That is the way to go. Live for you first. Then you will be ready and willing to except the responsibilities of a family. Take it from me, start scheduling "me" time now when your single. This way it becomes routine. When you do meet someone, it will be something that you can offer to your mate as a gift. A relationship can be smothering even with the greatest intentions. "Me" time will be something you can give to them to let them know you respect their individuality. Good luck dl
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
20 Feb 08
It is important to have ME time. When I need Me time I usually choose a book or a computer game where I can just escape. I really enjoy that. Most often I like to read a book. I find me time whenever I can. Even if it's going to the bathroom I lock myself in there and take a book with me while I do my business lol! It works.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Feb 08
You are absolutely correct I think that the place for me time isnt important. At least when your in the bathroom, doing your business, you know they wont want to come in. It isnt a pleasant thing to sit through unless your the one actually doing it.lol When you want a little extra "me" time eat beans!lollollollollol
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 08
I do that but our lock is broken on the bathroom door so I still have little feet following me in!
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 08
Most of my me time is now filled up with studying! I have a relaxing bath once a month (well, ny 2 year old tries to get in with me!)
I try to get on mylot as much as I can and sometimes I will do crosswords and other puzzles once I have done an hour on my course.
I enjoy lots of different things but feel overwhelmed by my own abilities that I just don't know what I feel like doing!
Right now, I have my toddler with me every day apart from a few hours a week but those hours are when I study or work so having a break from him just means being able to do something else without him around but I don't call it me time because I'm not doing anything to relax or because I enjoy it. I guess once he starts nursery in September, I can try and set aside one morning a week to do something I want to do!
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 08
Well, I already get up with my kids at 6.30. That's early enough!
They are really good though. While my 8 year old is at home, he doesn't mind playing with the little one if I need a rest and they both help with housework so I am lucky that way. My little one goes to his grandparents on a Thursday while I work so I try to get as much done as possible so that I can at least sit down for my lunch in peace!
Thank you for your advice.
I don't mind not having me time because I enjoy the time with my children so much but yes it can be frustrating sometimes, especially when there is no help (my partner isn't very helpful most the time!).
I am very lucky to have two absolutely adorable little boys who I feel priveleged to spend my time with. That might change as they grow up though! But right now, I am proud to be their mum.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Girl, I sure can relate to you. When my daughter was younger, I put myself through school too. Between studying and taking care of the baby I had no time for anything else. I started to become really agitated, easily annoyed, and I was miserable. Please take my advice! Even if you have to set aside a few minutes in the morning before the baby is awake. Do It!!!!! If possible, try to see if you can have someone keep an eye on the baby for about and hour or so to do something you really like to do. I had no one to watch her so I set my alarm for an hour earlier. You know what, It really helped me. I hope it helps you too.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
12 Sep 11
For "ME" time, I go take a bubble bath. I spend half hour to an hour just soaking in the bath tub reading a good book or listening to music. My boyfriend knows its me time and respects that (one thing I love about him). It helps me relax from the day and just get a clear head so I can do what I need to do the next day, sleep for the night and whatever. sometimes I add in salt or bah beads to soften my skin.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
20 Feb 08
Oh my! Do I really have me time? Let me think!
I use my me time to chat with friends and do some mylotting. I also take that time to do my manicure/pedicure and pamper myself.
Fiancee always want to spend time with me......Everytime he is away, he can't wait to be with me, I also fancy his company hence I have less ME time. I like what you do with your me time, atleast its a tangible thing.
Also try doing something good to your body, go to a massage parlor, beautry therapy or even swim.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Feb 08
After reading your response, I have scheduled a "Night of Beauty" for myself. I told my hubby that tonight between 10-11 p.m. I would not be available due to "me" time.lol He actually was extremely happy with the idea. In turn, he scheduled me time from 9-10 p.m. And my daughter just informed me that she would be taking "me"time from 7-8 p.m. Next thing I know the dog will need time. You know what? I will give it to him.lol
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I have various things that I do for "me" time. I usually wake up at least an hour before the rest of my family and spend time on the computer. I enjoy the silence. Other times I read. Tonight I am taking myself to a movie at the discount theater. I'm going to see P.S. I Love You. The book was incredible, so I'm thinking the movie can't be too bad. I have found that I MUST have some quiet me time, at least 15 minutes each day, to function well in the different roles I play in life.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
19 Feb 08
That sounds so nice. I love to wake up before everyone to just to enjoy the quiet. I also love to spend quiet time with my puppy. I love to bead when everyone is sleeping as well. I hate when I am in the middle of something and I hear " MoM" or "Honey" Once I hear that I know me time is over.lol I love them though what can I say.
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@cher913 (25781)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
i am in a lot of pain most of the time and to escape from this, i try and do crafts which vary from scrapbooking, to card making to beading to cross stitching to crocheting. if i have time, i also like to spend my 'me' time reading. my kids are older now and they dont need mommy as much.
