How hard was it for you to move on after your last break up???

i did not have break ups since this is my first relationship and honestly if it should end, i would not move on..if it is love, sorry to say it but you dont move on...so i would just sit there and cry myself to death or stalk my girl and beg her to give me anohter chance ... real love wont allow you to move on...

I was in a seven year relationship when I eventually ended it. It actually didn't take me long to get over it as by the time the 6th year came around I was already not in it anymore. So when the time came I was glad I got out of it as the relationship turned me into someone I did not recognise.

Hi Diillu. Well for me, it depends on how you were involved in a relationship and how many you have gone thru and how you have learned from them.

Yes, its really hard to move on after a break-up from a relationship coz sometimes deep inside you, you still want to feel how good it was when the relationship was still good and still feel loved. Also the routine you had with that person is sometimes hard to break and when its gone, you feel a part of you is missing. IT was really those memories and most of them were the good ones that often hold us back.

For me, with my first serious relationship, it took me years to recover and get on with my life and realize that I should let go of him. Maybe becoz I was trying hard to make it and build the family as we had a child. But then it didnt work and it was hard for me to leave those memories for me and my son. Also I have invested so much love and everything in that relationship that held me into it and kept me from moving on.

In my other relationship, at one, it was easy as I was just saying yes to a guy just to "try" the relationship out even though he knew I still love my ex. Thus it was easy for me to let him go as I had no real feelings for him.

The other one was also hard as so much love and effort was made from both of us but then learning from my previous experience that I dont want to sink into that beign hard to get out and having to cling on to pains and all, I recovered quickly and I guess this time, it was the will and determination to move on and know your worth.

Well lessons need to be learned from break-us even hard and often learning is hard. Moreover, knowing my worth, many people loves me and my love to myself is more that I learned to move on after a break-up. Cheer up and be happy! Many people loves you! And love yourself!

hi there=)
well, i had my first boyfriend when i was in first year high school. but the relationship didn't work well so i decided to end it all up.

i didn;t have any regrets and it was easy for me to move on because i know he was not the right man for me and he's not worth it.

now i have a long time relationship. we're dating for almost 4 years now. if this thing would end, i honestly would say that i can never move on because for me this relationship that we have is just right. so probably it'll take me a hundred years (laughs) before i could move on

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I broke up with my Ex about 3 months ago. It was my choice actually. i do not feel i love him anymore and i could no longer hurt him by pretending that i do.

I have loved him and still respects him. There were just differences i think we can never work out.

I have moved on now. Happy as I am.

I have been in a relationship now for nearly 9 years, but the one I was in before was actually really easy to move on from. The lad I was seeing had started off as a friend that I just used to meet up with and chat to on my nights out, he was nothing to look at at all and so there was no physical attraction on my part. But as I got to know him, I found he had a beautiful personality, he was kind, funny and we got on really well. I knew he liked me, and slowly I started to fall for him, and we started seeing each other. But he was a mummys boy and I was a single parent and his mum did not approve of me at all, so this played a major factor in our relationship, and then there was the intimate side, he would not be intimate with me at all. He would hug me, kiss me but that was all. He made me feel so low, he would turn around and say to me I will stay tonight, meaning that tonight would be the night and I would make everything special and then he would just do nothing, and even when I tried to get things going he would just lie there and not even touch me or he would push me away. I would get so upset and it was not like he was a virgin or anything, he would seem to get pleasure out of being like this. So eventually I just could not take no more and broke up with him and it was such a relief!!

I never really did move on, at least not to any other romantic relationship. But then my last breakup was in middle age. It doesn't get any easier, lol.

However, I don't really feel uncomfortable in my own skin and I would say I moved on in the sense that I don't think much about that relationship anymore. I have my family and friends and hobbies, and I'm at peace.

My ex is the father of my 3 of my children so it is not as simple as "moving on." Romantically it was pretty easy to move on. He lost my trust and I just didn't love him the way a wife should. The marriage lasted 7 years but was difficult from the beginning. We didn't even live together the last year of our marriage.

My current husband and I broke up once when we were dating. I think it only lasted like 3-4 weeks but they were miserable times. The relationship was pretty toxic back then and I think it actually helped us in the long run.

I think that if we were to have stayed broken up; that relationship would have been very difficult for me to move past. I could have done it but it would have been hard.

When I was younger, my parents sent me to live with my biological mom. She was less than a mom at that point and the longer I stayed with her, I could see she was worse. She didn't pay attention to me or take me anywhere, basically, I was a welfare check. She had a girlfriend that she was close to and this girlfriend had a son about 2 years younger than me. I played with this kid and we hung out all summer only to find out that we were in love. Yes, I know a 14 year old and a 12 year old don't know what love is, but we had sucky parents so, we bloomed. My dad found out how my mom was treating me so, he came to AZ to get me. The day I left, my true love was too late and I didn't say goodbye. I have to say that was tramatic for me. I lost the only thing that I had ever loved!
Fast forward about 15 years, I got nostalgic and went on myspace looking for names and popped my loves name in. He wasn't in AZ anymore, but in Illinois. Two States from me!! I was so tickled that I contacted him right away. We found eachother and decided to give it a go. IT was great until last summer when we decided that my life was too hectic and broke up. I miss him dearly to this day, June will be a year. I have a hard time letting him go. We don't talk anymore. But, everyday, I ask God to let him come back. I admit, I am lost without him. He was my soul mate, my best friend and the most wonderful person I have ever met. Yes, I still cry sometimes, I miss him dearly. I am trying to pick up and let go but that's not easy to do. I will forever be grateful for the time that I had with him. Great topic by the way!