Sex and things you just shouldn't hear.  |
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 I was put into a position of thinking when a friend told me that she was physically ill at sex books because her mom had some. My own personal scarring came from my mom deciding to talk about her sex life with me. I can't tell you how much I wanted to run and puke during that conversation.
But here is the question have your parents ever scarred you in the sex area wether it be them talking to you about there sex life or you coming across a book they have or even just walking in on them ..
What has scarred you sexually?
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1.  myklj999 (7262) | 2 years ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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 bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | That would be the auto death sentence there. I mean it would literally be get off and pack your bags and when I have calmed down then we can talk maybe. | |
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| 2. skinnychick (3317) | 2 years ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | I have tried that and no matter how many times I say I don't want to her about it I hear about it. my mom acts like my sister rather than my mom. LOL!!! | |
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| skinnychick (3317) | 2 years ago | Ewwwww that would gross me out! | |
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| 3. eden32 (2986) | 2 years ago |  I walked in on my mom and her partner once, just this discussion has made me feel queasy all over again. I know it's normal, and all that; but I could have lived a full life without ever having that experience. Now I'm going to do my best to forget about it again...
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | Sorry about that I know what you mean just thinking that my mom still does it ...Yuck..... | |
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4.  kamran12 (1807) | 2 years ago |  Hello bellaofchaos!:-)
I am fortunate that I haven't had any such experience; rather, in fact, I had something almost opposite. My parents never talked about their very private issues with us, nor did they consider it right.
But, my father did share what a woman is and how delicately they should be treated. His allusions to physical things and harmony between husband and wife were so poetic and expressed so beautifully and indirectly that it helped me have burning passion and love of woman (wife) without any aggressive or depressive thoughts about the physical thing. I am not sure if I should have responded to this discussion because, I guess, it’s not what this discussion is about?
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | No I'm greatful for your response you have shown us what the other end of the spectrum is like and that is great that your father was so poetic that it helped you instead of hindered you .. LOL!! It's a great thing and I appreciate you sharing it with us. Have a nice one. | |
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | Your welcome. You are not digressing to much. I always love to here both sides along with examples. Feel free to type freely even if the view is different than what the question asks.. How am I supposed to broaden my horizons with out people like you. I love learning and hearing about every side of the situation. | |
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| 5. oscarbartoni (1722) | 2 years ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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6.  p1kef1sh (5735) | 2 years ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| p1kef1sh (5735) | 2 years ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content. | |
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | Exactly we can instill the values and teach them the birds and bees and then be there to pick up the pieces. and make sure that they know they have a shoulder to cry on and come to for help. | |
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| 7. gabs8513 (19833) | 2 years ago |  Bella I will make this short
I was raped for 2 years as a 5 year old I was raped at the age of 14 and I would also say at times I was raped by my Ex Husband when he was drunk
And maybe if I would have met the wonderful Man I am with now many Years ago the fear and scarring could have been buried for ever
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | Gabs,
Honey I had no idea. I hope that you are working it out as having this act committed to you is never an easy act to work through. There are lots of emotional components. have you seen a doctor for what happened. I hope that you are better. I can never imagine what it would be like to go through that and I hope that the man that your with now helps erase it day by day bit by bit. We love you hun and are always here for support of what ever kind you need. | |
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| gabs8513 (19833) | 2 years ago | I didn't ever tell anyone till I was 26 I was scared it was a Member of the Family and he always told me if I told they would send me and not believe me he also told me that he would kill me and he would have I know
So no I never told anyone till that age
I have tried counselling it did not work and the Doctor said I have buried it so deep it will only do damage if I let it surface so that stopped
My Man certainly does help me a lot as he knows all of it including what was done to me and he was the first Person I ever told what was actually done
I am 46 now but it is as fresh as though it happened yesterday
But yes I learned to deal with it but I have a massive fear of Men and the slightest advance toward me scares me even just words
But hey every one has been through a bad spot somewhere in Life and like me they have to learn to live with it including the Scars
Love you Sweetie Big Hugs
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | I'm sorry that it was a family member that took advantage of you. That was so wrong. But you're right we learn to live with things and move on. Kudos for you for being able to love I know it must be very hard sometimes. If you just need to talk I'm always here. | |
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| gabs8513 (19833) | 2 years ago | Thank you Bella
Love to you | |
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| gabs8513 (19833) | 2 years ago | Hi there Kameran
Thank you so much it wa a case having to deal with it Sweetie I had no choice really
It wasn't my Husband that helped me
I am divorced from him as he did not help
It is the loving Man I am with now that is helping me
Thank you Sweetie for your kind words it will stay with me for the rest of my Life but I have to live with that
Hugs to you | |
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | yep that would be scarring to catch them in the act.. Did you have loss of eyesight for a while? I know I would of. | |
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| onewickedsoul (439) | 2 years ago |  I am just grateful that the lights were off, so I could just make out the silhouette, but still, just knowing that they're doing it, and seeing my mom in that position... Oh no no no!
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | yep that had to be scarring .. I'm glad for your sake the lights weren't on. LOL!!! | |
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | yeah the god thing didn't work in my house at the time my mom wasn't overly religous. | |
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| 10. ayumitakashi (2228) | 2 years ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| bellaofchaos (3116) | 2 years ago | wow I could never not have the talk with my daughter. I just can't imagine not having the talk | |
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