Dont go away mad - Just go away!  

I am very pleased to read your post. Being i have been tired of reading post begging mylot friends not to leave I have to come back and read the responses. I totally agree with what you have said here.

When you open the door for something. Be ready for it when it smacks you in the face.

I would just leave if I was that mad. Now I would not close out my acct at that time. Who knows what I may do later. If online I am not put in this position much.

I couldn't agree with you more. If someone is so mad they have to leave ..well then leave. Those that go on and on about how right they are and they are being abused or targeted..etc. I am so tired of seeing whiny posts...jeez be gone already. I think it all has much to do with attention...or the lack of... Whatever someones reason for being mad...don't take it out on the rest of us.. leave or carry on...don't whine. In the beginning I felt bad when someone would say they are leaving because of this and that and name calling, negative ratings..bla, bla, bla. Now I see those discussions and say to myself, as I move on "see ya".
Brightest Blessings, Mari

If I was that angry then I would just leave not make any announcement whatsoever. I am well aware that no tall of us ever will see eye to eye on things but as long as we respect each others viewpoints we should get along just fine and enjoy mylot and all our friends too

I am one of those tell it like I see it people and have been known to be a bit too harsh in the way I say things to people. When I have it done to me I do sometimes stomp my feet and b*tch about it but that does not last long. Once the truth sets in I am more upset with myself and go off to kick myself about not seeing things the way they really are.


I have announced that I am fed up and leaving before. It isn't that I am trying to get anyone to try and stop me but just to let friends or family know I need me time.

Hey Zuke

I have to say right now that I never really took complete break from this sight, I've seen many people say they are going to leave, but I feel like they want an excuse to say, people beg them to stay.....

I think there was only one, I really know who meant it, and he posted a post just before he left telling us all to get a life, I loved his writing and hope that someday he will come back, however he deleted us all from his friends list and got his account cancelled....

But many say that and don't want to leave.

and some do leave and then come back under a new name....just so that people won't recognize them right away.

Mooch

I agree with your statement. In my opinion, the people, who make an announcement that they will leave, are people who are hoping people will stop them and plead them to stay. It is human nature that we want to be recognized. They should accept that people have different opinions. If they could not accept that, they have a serious problem. :D

you are SO right! mylot is only .05% of whats going on in our lives. i'm sure we have better things to do than to make the discussions here negatively affect us so much.

if one doesn't agree with the opinion of another, maybe one can explain his/her side. but don't expect the belief of one person to change, or don't condemn him/her for having a different opinion than your.

we're all here at mylot to grow and not to be stressed out. personally, i like these discussion forums because i can learn from others and i can also share whatever thoughts i have.

Agreed.
If something online upsets me to the point that I don't want to be around it anymore...I will just go. There might be a time when I want to come back and I don't want all that old drama hanging over me.

In "real" life, if I am uncomfortable I have been known to disappear too (not forever in this case of course). My husband thought this was a recent thing. He found out different last year when he asked my sister where I went. She replied, "I don't know, I didn't realize she was gone because she has disappeared my whole life!" Now, I don't leave and not come back for days or anything drastic. I just go take a break from the situation for a little while. Think and then things are usually more clear to work out by then.

Whenever I post any discussion here, yes I'm prepared that not every single person is going to agree with what I'm saying and yes I know everyone is entitled to their opinion...I will object though when a person is being downright nasty obnoxious or rude and rattles off things that really doesn't even have anything to do with the discussion...but it won't make me leave this site in a huff, as frankly I've gotten used to my attackers...especially if they are so out of line and start calling me a lier, lazy, stupid or a loser...for the most part I've known only great people and friends here so yes, it can be expected to come across the bad apples once in awhile here, just as one can come across the bad apples in "real" life-But nothing someone says to me, regardless would make me want to leave and wouldn't make a raz ma taz announcement about leaving

"Real life" however can be so different as you are dealing with a person one on one in person and they are in your face. I'm thinking mainly of my nut-case mother in particular who was a real antagonist in my life...She couldn't for instance stomach truth at all...oh, yes if someone else said something honest to her that she didn't want to hear she just smile her sweet little way without saying a word and would walk away..Not so with me...honestly talk about bats in her belfry....If I said something honest to her, she get this crazed, deranged look on her face...she didn't even look like my mother anymore...and she charge right up to me and crap didn't know if she was going to beat the crap out of me...lets put it this way, if she had a knife in her hand I don't think I'd be sitting here writing this out....that's how dangerous she was.

The first few times she did that I cringed...I mean wouldn't you? Then I challenged her, saying "You lay one hand on me, I'm calling 911 and have them cart you out to the psycho ward at the hospital." Needless to say she never charged up at me again, but didn't quite stop her temper tantrum fits--and believe me during those years of fun oh, how I did want to just pack up, pick myself up and leave..just to get away from my looney tunes mother, but had no funds to do so

Since she never signed a proxy until the last few months of her life, I wasn't able to talk to her doctors, psychiatrist, or social worker about her mental state, they wouldn't even acknowledge me, when I DID try to get attention to her bulimic behavior she was doing for awhile....oh what fun I had....Oh, and she often did say she was going to commit suicide ...for the attention...she say wacko things like "I'm going to commit suicide by taking sleeping pills." And I'd say, "Uh, mom you need a prescription for sleeping pills." Or, one time she said, "I'm going to jump off into the subway tracks." "Uh, mom you stay home all the time...I don't see any subway tracks here in the living room." Okay poking a bit of fun here and making it sound funny, and I know supposedly if someone says they are thinking of suicide that one should alert someone, but how could I when no one would listen to me cause she hadn't signed the friggin proxy at the time? She had a lot of weird behavior that no doubt she did want the attention (and a cry for help)---like her shoplifting bout...I sat home thinking any day I was going to get a call from the cops that my mother had been apprehended for shoplifting..never did, but maybe she was hoping to?? To get the help??

Sorry for my rattling on...

I totally agree with you that when one ask for opinions then always be prepared for remarks that may smart or hurt.

It's a free world so one gotta take the good and bad in one's own stride.

When someone announce that they are leaving, they are announcing the hurt within them as loudly as they can.

But there are some who really just wanted some soothing words. Of course if after much coaxing and persuading, he or she still rails about leaving then we should back off quickly. Rather than lament about how the opposite person is behaving, perhaps we should look at how we should react to prevent ourselves from getting caught in the backlash.