So my husband knows that one supervisors at work doesn’t like him
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
April 11, 2008 10:35pm CST
And he has a feeling that he won’t be on the job long. This is not the person that hired him or the person he really works for. He is currently working a customer support position under manager A, who loves him to death. He is going to move in to programming under Manager B, who doesn’t really like him. The reason Manager B doesn’t like my husband is because he doesn’t 100% fit the person that is open. Manager B called into question his number of open support tickets. This week my husband has kept 0 open tickets this week. Now this Manager is saying that my husband doesn’t really want to be there, that he would prefer working in Video Game. Yes, that is true, but he likes his job, loves the company and wants to stay. My husband told him this, but he thinks it went in one ear and out the other.
With payday coming up, he feels that that may be his last day. This is really upsetting because well he makes $45K/year, we already put in notice to move out of our place into a better more expensive place, and I might be pregnant and was planning on staying home all summer.
So, he is thinking about getting out of the tech field as much as he loves it because he has had a string of bosses that are jerks. He is thinking about going into construction.
My husband is a hard worker, but I don’t’ know if I can 100% support this. It is s huge job change, probably pay change as well (I would think). I don’t know if he could really 100% adjust to the lifestyle of not working in an office.
I am doing my best to support him. He came home with all this tonight (well not all of the information, but the decision). It is hard though. I don't want him jobless, that is much too much stress and we need the money - especially if we are going to move.
How do you support someone when you just aren't sure that they are making the right choice?
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4 responses
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
12 Apr 08
Well, not everyone on the Earth would like us. Since your husband believes that he might not be able to stay put, why doesn't he make sure that he has another job in mind before he has to quit this one. Since you are saying that you might also get pregnant this summer, ask your husband to stay put for some more time and he could find a better job after the pregnancy stuff is all taken care of. Most of the bosses in Tech companies are jerks cos they are always under the pressure to perform better, and it cannot be attributed to that single person. Who knows, the person who doesn't like your husband might himself quit the company and go for good. And if you husband gets to know this after he leaves his job, then he surely would be disappointed whit his own decision. Patience is a Virtue. Please ask your husband to stay put for a while and see if it works for the good. Or else you always have a choice.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
12 Apr 08
Right now I think it is just a matter of when he is going to be asked to leave. He is working on looking for a new job right now in fact. He believes that eh is going to get the ax on Tuesday 
This kind of BS always seems to happen to him. Last night he told me that he feels like he missed a day of high school when everyone else was told the key to being an adult.
This kind of BS always seems to happen to him. Last night he told me that he feels like he missed a day of high school when everyone else was told the key to being an adult.1 person likes this
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
12 Apr 08
.. is it so bad?? But why will he get an ax cos one person doesn't like it?? Thats BS..
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
12 Apr 08
Yeah, it is BS. It is because this guy doesn’t want him in his department because he isn’t the right type of programmer – they knew that when they hired him. His current manager doesn’t want to keep him in support because he knows my husband would rather program. They have the mentality that if you don’t want your job, you shouldn’t be there. It is screwed up. Unfortunately, it seems the majority of tech companies here are like that. 
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@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
12 Apr 08
well i would just try to talk him into trying to keep his job that he has now, and give it a shot for a little while longer, IF he doesn't loose him job that is. I dunno how it works there, but here employers can't jsut FIRe someone cause they dont like them, they have to have a valid reason for doing so. I hope that everything works out for you, and if you are pregnant CONGRATS! please keep me informed if you're preggo! hehe both my babies are sleeping atm.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
12 Apr 08
Well, that can’t just fire him for that reason. But if they let him go, that is why. That dude just doesn’t want him as a programmer, which sucks. They have the mentality that if yo don't want to be there, then they don't want you. So they could always use something like that. I told him to talk to his step dad and if he wants to do construction, join that company. They supposedly start at $17/hour. We could still move and not have to worry about our bills.
Well, I don’t know about the preggo thing. I took the test and it was neg, but I am a week late? I didn’t go through this when I was pregnant with my son. So maybe I am not? I dunno. I am usually right on time though
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@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
12 Apr 08
well you can get a false negative, but you can't get a false positive, wait a few days and take the test again.. a week is a little suspecious to be late especially if you are usually right on time. . or maybe try a different brand of test. .
I used one from the darn dollar store and it told me positive. . YES the dollar store has preggo tests. i laughed when i first seen them tehre. and then i was embarassed buying one from there, lol but yea it worked. i almost pooped myself when it was postitive.. i wasn't trying to become preggo... lol.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I think we just have to have trust and faith that they are making the right decision. I know where you are coming from about the money thing though. We have to have the money also and I am always the one figuring the bills and what we are or aren't going to do about things. I wish your husband luck in his decision.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 08
Conversation is so important talk to him a nd tell him what you have just told us. explain that you love him and will stand by him no matter what. this has to be hard on him too and he will need your support believe me. any choice he makes will have some iffy feelings but a job in hand is worth two on paper and if he and you have to make adjustments then so be it. You need an income and he needs to not feel all alone in this.
