They learnt that at SCHOOL

I agree, a lot of bad language does come from home, and the other bad language comes from friends at school who heard it at home.

I used to work in a special school for abused children. While working there, a seven year old boy called someone else a "XXXX licker." The other teacher and I just stood there for a moment with jaws hanging. Then the other teacher turned to me and said, "Did he really say what I think he said?" When asked where he heard it, he told us at home, from his older brother. Fortunately, the boy and his older brother weren't living with their abusive parents anymore, but they were clearly still dealing with issues from when they did.

And then the child get punished for saying the same to their teachers,thinking it is normal.
So then the parent goes to the school to attack the teacher for punishing there angelic child.
It is just what is happening all over the country everyday,it is getting so worrying

I agree! I was even amaze when a girl I knew in our Country who was used to be very reserve and refine. Lately, I saw her account in friendster and learn that her entire family is now living in WA. Going through her account, I was very amaze all the words she is using to describe her pictures! What a transformation! hahahaha..I am one who doesn't like to hear anyone close to me ever utter and get used to those words!

I agree with you, children are fast learners and they will learn from their parents both good and bad habits unfortunately the bad ones are sometimes really not socially acceptable.

I think the teachers are getting a bit of a hard time re: trying to teach children today because by the time the kids get to the school they have already formed bad habits which are impossible to break especially as they hear this sort of thing every day when they get home!

I remember when I was at primary school I learnt the four letter word and I went home and proudly told my mother. She was incredibly shocked and just asked me politely not to use it because that wasn't the way we behaved in our house. I got the message. I was one of the lucky ones!

Thanks for sharing this with us.

I agree 100%!! The school is an institution where children are gathered together. Those children bring with them whatever they've learned on the "outside". After all, if we remove the children from the school then all you have is a building! It's the children themselves that bring their foul mouths and behaviors with them. Those children are learning it SOMEWHERE and it only takes standing in a public place for a few minutes (pick any place.. a parking lot, a grocery store, a library) to know WHERE they learned it.

People need not blame schools for every little failing they make. Stand up; take responsibility and do something with yourself. Even if you've NEVER cursed or said the mean things quoted above.. if you're child comes home REPEATING things.. then somehow they haven't picked up the morals that will stop them from behaving that way. Our children must be equipped with the armor to defend themselves from the nasty-ness of the world. They should be able to walk away from unkind or unclean behaviors.. they need that strength.

Ok..I'll shut up now:o)

i agree with the cussing at the kid like that, but i think that they are just words. We dont really cuse in our home, but there are time, my stepkid knows that he doesnt say cuss words in public, and does get a bad look or comment if he says it at home. But in our eyes they are just words that are totally misplaced. I know some people wont agree with me, im just saying whats the big deal with words.

And people wonder why homeschooling is becoming more and more popular as time goes by, sure the teacher need to have some ocntrol over what is said in a class and what isn't said in school, but many parents don't want their kids subected to what other parents say to their kids and then they repeat it in school.

Mooch

Hey, hiccup! Oh, I've heard these kinds of things and they make me cringe. It seems like no one even cares who hears their cusses and threats to children any more. People have gotten so brazen and I absolutely hate hearing child abuse like that.

And you're very right... things like that aren't learned at school, they're learned at home. And when children get verbally abused like that, guess what? They*GO* to school and say the same thing to other kids. Then they get into trouble and the same parents complain that the teachers are failing their kids.

You are 100% right in stating that the best preventative medicine begins at home.. If you say these nasty words, your child will say these nasty words.. A child will repeat and grow up to be what the parent says that he is.. The teachers do have a responsibility to teach and correct children when they are wrong, but the teachers need to do it correctly and not abusive the children.. Whe I was growing up, if I got in any type of trouble and a neighbor saw it, the neighbor had every right to tell my parents and he usually did.. My parents didn't get mad at the neighbor, they got mad at me, the neighbor was believed and I was punished. It can take a "village to raise a child", but the members of the village must have the same destination in mind for the child as the parents do.. I raised my child to be respectful, honest and open with me.. I punished him when needed, grounded him when needed and made sure that he tried to do the best in all things.. He did grow up to be an honest hard working citizen and a deacon in his church.. I am not bragging but I am proud of him, he goes to church when the doors are open and he has never used drugs, nor alcohol.. He did try cigarettes a few times, but thank the Lord, they made him cough so bad that he had to quit each time.. I do smoke myself so I can't really fuss about it so much but his dad quit smoking and he really gives him down the road about it when he tries to smoke.. I am thankful and grateful for the way my 26 yr old son turned out, I cannot take all of the credit for it as I only had the one child..

One thing that I remembered was the spankings that I got from my mom and dad when I was in the wrong, never being cursed at but spanked just the same and I feel like that is why I turned out ok, not perfect but ok.. I do believe that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child.. But is it also a sad fact that abuse is on the rise and abusive ways are not loving, teaching ways.. Children need someone to look up to and someone to tell them that there is nothing they can't do if they set thier mind to it.. Parenting needs to begin at home and it needs to be good parenting.. Bad language from a parent is not acceptable at all and the parent needs to be sent to a parenting class to stop this cycle..

Sorry, but sometimes I do get so long winded, but I do wish the world was a simpler place, such as when I grew up..

It truly is horrible. Childhood is a time for innocence and happiness. Children who hear this sort of trash have absolutely no hope of growing up to become a loving, happy, content person..let alone parent. This sort of behaviour will proabably be passed down to their children and their children's children and so on.

I believe that parents should be made to go to some sort of parenting classes before their child is born. I know this is a bit crazy and realistically, it probably wouldn't work but children these days are being brought up by children themselves pretty much and some sort of normality has to be replaced.