How can i be out of my 3rd person vision?
By fuzkabir2
@fuzkabir2 (126)
Bangladesh
April 22, 2008 4:40am CST
I'm 29,male, married and have a job. I suffer in this problem a lot. I always think that everybody is thinking of me. it become a practice since my teen age, Now I'm older, i have better understanding, even good logic power. But still i suffer in that problem(but some less than before).
I always try to guess with that they may think but many times i'm wrong, maybe they are thinking nothing about me. Sometimes i react with my guess about them( may be behave rude or get myself in depression).
I completed several courses from better psychologist and psycreatist.
Is there any way i can be fully releifed from this problem??
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I do not worry about other people. I do not care for what they think or say about me. I just worry about myself and the job that I need to do. This is a simple way of dealing with life. Cheers!!
@trulydreaming (139)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Oh wow! I wish I had an answer for you. I have had the same issue throughout life as well.
For me, I believe it began with the knowledge that people were judging me by my appearance. I was born with a (slight) physical disability. Children can be cruel and I remember being made fun of and crying myself to sleep many times. So...at a young age I realized that I was physically "different" and many people did not like it - to a point that they "expressed" that disapproval out-right and out-loud. With these types of (emotional distress) drilled into me as a young age, I held onto that feeling that people were "looking" and "disapproving." I took on the negative...I still do. I tend to think people still disapprove of the way I look.
As an adult, I can rationalize that what really matters is what is within us...not what is on the outside. I have been able to come to terms (to an extent) with my past. Knowing I am who I am today (and being alright and happy with that person) because of that pain. So...when I start to "hear" those thoughts that I am projecting onto myself (while thinking they are coming from others around me) I can STOP that thinking by "talking myself" away from those thoughts. I can also "distract myself" by some kind of physical busy-ness (picking up an object, start a conversation with a friend, writing something down, whatever). I believe this type of "problem" comes from a "questionable moment" of self-esteem (maybe not feeling secure with situation, place, people, etc.).
Once you decide or figure out what the underlying issue is (that starts this thought process) - you can figure out a way "around" it, "through" it, or "out" of it. I hope this rambling helped. I wish you luck and a quiet mind!
