No more getting angry with my kids  

I know what you mean. I used to hollar at my daughter too because she would not listen and do the right thing. I got so tired of that. I then started taking things away from her also that she enjoyed and she straightened up real quick. I told her I was tired of arguing with her and getting nowhere with it.

You know that is all good but i am dealing with that right now with my stepgirls having problems with her mother always grounding them for not doing housework and she is taking toys, art projects and such away from them and they both told me today they don't even want to go home anymore, they are grounded from tv, phone, computer and also am grounded for weeks in the summertime, this is very unfair, kids are kids and should not be made to do all the housework and the more you ground them the more they are going to retaliate more with rebellion.I have a 14 and 10 year old stepgirls and they now don't even want to come home from school anymore.

Good for you Mooch, just remember you have to be consistent, it is very easy to allow something slip when you are tired..I will pray for strength to get you through, they may not like it at first, but if you keep at it, they will learn..

I do not have children, but I know what you mean. I remember my mom saying that she got tired of saying the same thing over and over again. Getting angry will only upset you more. Tell them to do it once, if they don't, start handing out the punishments. This is what I did with my sister's kids. Their daddy only had to call them once, so why should I have to keep begging them to do what they already know they should be doing.

good for you mooch grounding and taking prividleges
away should really do the trick. and it will sure
save wear and'tear on your nerves too. i do wish
I had listened to my mom when I was young about math as I now wish I knew so much more than I do.They are all old enough
to clean and especially now with your bad foot and all.
Sometimes kids just learn to turn a deaf ear to angry
yelling and go on with what they are doing.lol

Yes but are the going to listen to you, are they going to listen to the grounding or punishment you give out. You have been saying lately that they don't respect you, so how are you going to be able to carry it through?

Oh Mooch.I have been there with ya so many times! I've gotten to abreaking point where I said, I'm done. No More!! And I've created a bit of system. We call it jail time and parole. I try to take every opportunity to teach my kids about the real world, and what it will be like when they're grown.
So, as adults, if they don't follow the rule, they face jail...if the kids can't seem to follow the rules they face jail(their bedrooms), they have to go infront of the judge(dad) and state their case and make a plea. Then the judge here's the proscution(me) side, and then makes a ruling, either jail time or probation. If they get pobation they have to report to him everyday, if they break any rules while on probation they get the full jail sentence. During probation they loose many priveleges, such as fun tv, games, just playing; and they get community service(dishes, laundry, vaccuuming, etc..)It seems to do the job. And works as way for them to get a taste of reality.

That's a good way to deal with kids once in a while. Anger can be so exhausting you will lose much energy getting angry.

It is sometimes so hard not to get angry with kids, its like they know what buttons to press and deliberately go and press them even though they know the trouble that it will cause. Mine are exactly the same, I get to the point where I am sick of shouting at them because in the end all it achieves is me feeling rough and stressed out and they pay no attention whatsoever. Mine just do not get their pocket money now if they are really naughty and that does the trick because they love their pocket money.

Hi mooch! I think showing them that there are consequences in every wrong they have done will somehow make them think twice before they do it again or disobey you. I have read in a book of parenting that it is a form of teaching them how to think first before they do something and in that way they will not just act on emotions but they will think as well. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and have a nice day!