Why are we rude with our kids and partners but seldom to other people?

My family is just the opposite! We are always saying excuse me or I'm sorry if we bump into one another or even burp . I find that it's the strangers who bump into us in the street that are rude and don't bother to say excuse me or I'm sorry. They would just as soon knock us over than say a word.

i'm also guilty of that. i guess its because of that fact you mentioned that our family will forever grieve if they lose us. its like saying, no matter what happens, our families will always be there for us. come rain or shine, our families will stay by our side and forgive us. and we take advantage of this fact. we take advantage of this fact in the sense that we take advantage of their love for us. we take them for granted and hurt them occasionally because we know, no matter bad things we do to them, they will always love us and be there for us because we're family.

and on the other hand, we can't take for granted or hurt other people that aren't our family. we can't treat other people badly because they'll be angry at us and they might not forgive us and hurt us too. other people will not give us consideration and won't treat us very nicely if we are taking them for granted. because we are not their family.

i think that's it.