Do you get angry when your kid do this?

@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
May 12, 2008 7:22pm CST
One of our neighbour was traveling and because they are quite a nice family theya sked us to please allow their 8 year old son stay with us we readily agreed since they are just going to be away for just two days,.We had fun all through the day until in the night around 2;00am when the boy suddenly started crying ,i immediately went to investigate and i was so angry that he ahs already urinated all over the bed in which he was sleeping,i took away the blanket and luckily the matteress was dry so i laid another one for him onlyto be woken up again by hima bout 1 hour later,he has wet the bed again,he did this 3 times before day break,and for me it was not a funny experience ,none of my kids bedwet but i thought at the age of 8 he should have outgrown this,what will you do if you habve a kid that bedwets at this age?
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
13 May 08
Honestly? I hope that child tells his parents that you were angry with him for bedwetting and they do not leave him with you over night again. The poor child was in a new place in a strange bed, probably had a whole different bedtime routine than he's used to, and on top of that I bet he missed his parents. Lots of children have night time troubles like that even under normal circumstances, even more have trouble in that situation. If my child did this, I would keep extra sheets on hand, use the protective underwear made for older children at night, and be very patient and understanding with them about it. Some times children just "outgrow" the bladder capacity. Fluids at night need to be kept to a minimum to help with that, waking them at set times during the night is an option, but mostly time to grow is all they really need.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
I was angry but never said any harsh words to him,and it was not as if i treated him badly,i guess its a new experience for me ,the parents are back now and he is back with them funny enough he was in our house all through till late this evening.Probably he still had fun who knows?
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
13 May 08
I might feel angry but I would try not to act on my anger! It is not his fault. A lot of kids have this problem. His parents should have mentioned it to you! If they knew or otherwise it may be a reaction to their being away! I would put a towel down under him and try to get a product to take care of it for him!
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
Well,at least the parents are back now and am happy there was no incidence while they were away ,it would have broken me,and though i was angry i did not beat him nor say any harsh words to him,
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
13 May 08
It does seem as though that may be the reason that they did not take him! Even though the hotel would have been understanding more than you were, and there are products that can prevent the bed from getting wet! It can be tough not to get angry with kids, and I am glad that his parents are back!
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@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Hello BYOLA, I will be disappointed and piss off! If the kid will be staying again for the next night, I will ask him to stand and pee in the toilet...I will inform the parents so that they can help their child and train him so if ever they will do it again with another neighbor, at least, it will not happen again!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
10 Jul 08
i dont even think i want to try a second time cos i wont want the kid growing up nursing some fears about me i would rather be his friend with him in his parent"s house than in my house if the same thing will happen again
@anonymili (3138)
28 Jun 08
Well personally I would not be looking after a neighbour's kid when they went on holiday in the first place. If you have kids they are your responsibility and the kid must have done this before so the parents should have forwarned so you could have put plastic sheets down! I have heard of kids older than 8 years of age who wet the bed and I hope you told his parents that it's their problem to resolve and that you won't be used in this way again. The poor kid must have been quite scared having to stay overnight in different surroundings.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
10 Jul 08
i think i do agree with you on the fact that maybe the new enviroment affected the child at least i have gone past that now but am just not sure i will allow it to happen a second time
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
13 May 08
Well, this is kinda annoying thing especially with a big kid. The smell of of baby urine is not as bad as big kid. I have experienced this with my own son (who was six then) and also with my 9 year old niece. The funny thing was he never awaken by his bedwetting. I don't know when he stopped his bad habit but he did. My niece is another one. She is nine years old and still have problems with bedwetting. The mother always scolded here and even made her washed the blanket and bedsheet she has wet. But all these fails to stop her from bedwetting. I think the reason behind it may be there is something stressing them. I don't know, its only my opinion.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
13 May 08
well,i really didnt feel anger the first time but the second and last time was very annoying especially when he will only stay on the bed crying till some one comes in,it was not funny it was more of a vigil for me,thank God the parents are back now and he is back with them ,i did not even bring up the issue with them.
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
14 May 08
My son is 8 years old. He has never been a bed wetter, but he will sometimes sleep walk when he needs to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. I have woken up because I have heard him wandering around in the hallway. He occasionally wets himself, but I do not get mad at him because he is not awake and he does not know what he is doing. They do make sleep pants that are absorbent like a diaper for children who have poor nighttime bladder control. I would also cut out liquids at an earlier time in the evening if he will be there in the future.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
10 Jul 08
you are quite lucky with your boy in this aspect aint you?well,i guess i was angry because the parents ought to have forwarnd me of this maybe i would have been better prepared
• Canada
20 Jun 08
I, myself, had this problem when I was a child. I didn't do it three times in one night like you described in this case, but I had a medical problem that caused me to do this. No amount of anger fixed the problem. It only served to make things harder on me. It might be a good idea to suggest to your neighbour that the boy have a medical examination to see what is causing this problem.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
10 Jul 08
well after considering the fact it may not actually be the fault of this chld i feel maybe it was the strangeness of having to sleep outside a familiar enviroment that resulted in that so i really didnt feel like i should say so much about it but of course i jokingly told the parents that their kid had a leaking pipe as i had to wake up three times to take him to the loo.i guess they got the message