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Can Parents Kill their Own Daughter.....wt is happening?? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family2 years ago

in Delhi a 13 year girl daughter of doctor parents was found dead with the throat slit first the suspect was the man servant of the house...later his body was found on the terrace with the throat slit similar manner mainly with surgical blade...they r suspecting that the daughter had been having a relationship with the man servant parents came and caught them...he tried to run and in fit of rage this happened...for familys honour they have done away with their daughter also....police says that this muder can b done only by a doctor bcoz in both th cases specific nerve has been cut.....Can any parent do this with their only child? Was it this big an issue that could not b forgiven with a stern warning? this is so brutal...how would u handle a situation like this.....

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 96/100. eihdra (854)   ranked 2,708 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

How gruesome!! If indeed the parents killed the servant much more their own flesh and blood, what kind of parents are they? I certainly can't do that to my own child or to any person. I dont wanna go to jail. If my daughter loves a servant and presuming I don't like the guy for my daughter, I would secretly send her away far from the guy. In another country perhaps so he can't follow. But i would certainly not kill.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

i also do not approve of what the girl did...but killing her is out of imagination..indeed very gruesome..i also wud try to keep her away frm him and protect her...afterall she would be my own flesh and blood...thanx for ur reply

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2. myLot reputation of 83/100. eden32 (2986)   ranked 351 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

I can't relate to stories like this. Why is it a problem that the girl was having a relationship? How can a child dating be such a huge disgrace to the family but the parents acting like animals & killing their child is not a disgrace?
No parent should do this to any child.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

i find it hard to believe such stories they r very harsh..in India still moral values r very high and children are expected to behave as per their parents desire....there is a law having any phys. relation with a minor (below 18yrs) with consent or without consent is considerd crime....so even law doesnt consider this right...but wt the parents did they shud b hung...


myLot reputation of 83/100. eden32 (2986)   ranked 351 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

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3. myLot reputation of 79/100. jonesy123 (3254)   ranked 880 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

Other countries, other traditions, other sense of morals. If your traditional upbringing and moral believes are as such that the daughter's behavior severely dishonors the entire family then this type of behavior may occur. Keep in mind that the cast system is still very much followed in India. You don't marry outside your cast. You don't have relationships outside your cast. You don't have a pre-marital affair, period. What the daughter did was social suicide for the entire family. Without the 'honor' killing's removal of the blemish, the entire family would be shunned by society. Just because India has progressed in many other ways doesn't mean that they just simply drop their believes. Furthermore, women are of less value and treated as such. Although it doesn't excuse what has been done, you have to view this 'honor' killing in this context to even remotely understand what went on and why on earth a parent could do something like that.

In most western countries this of course would be treated differently. A relationship like that may be embarrasing but you don't kill somebody over it, especially not your own child. As a parent you do what you can to stop the relationship, or you learn to live with it.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

hi jonesy India is changing with times...but we r still trying hard to hold on to our culture and moral values...i married out of caste and community with our parents will....my cosin married a christian boy we being hindus that is accepted...my hubbys cousin fell in love with a pakistani muslim girl when studying abroad they had a beautiful wedding here in India all of us attended and danced and had fun...nowdays this is not a big issue....such instances happen normally in the uneducated lot...but this is shocking bcoz both parents are Doctors by profession..or maybe the girl was very young for all this...but such carnivorus acts are just not acceptable to the normal Indians...i totally agree with u they shud have tried other means of stopping the relationship....human mind is too complex to understand all this...thanx


myLot reputation of 79/100. jonesy123 (3254)   ranked 880 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

I know that there are a lot of modern notions now in India, and I'm glad you and your family are more modernized in their thinking. Unfortunately, just there are still many traditionalists around. And no matter how well educated and in what area of the country they live, they will honor those traditions and moral values.

Even here in the US are families who have 'honor' killed a child for one reason or another. They have brought their beliefs with them when they immigrated to the US and some just simply refuse to adapt their morals and beliefs to their new country. And unfortunately there are too many countries in the world, where 'honor' killings are still a fact of life. And in some countries the parents will get away with this.

I know that Indian authorities will prosecute the parents in this case as the Indian government has been working hard on modernizing belief systems and to eradicate such ancient believe systems. And yes, it's surprising to find a doctor in Dehli do this instead of some farmer in some remote village. But that shows you can find traditionalists pretty much anywhere.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

hi jonsey i agree with wt u say..the girls father has been arrested and he will b tried...i m sure he will not b spared if found guilty...may justice prevail...thanx

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4. myLot reputation of 89/100. shooie (3548)   ranked 1,315 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

Well if the parents did do this and this is proved i feel the same thing should be done to them. To me if you kill someone and it is prove beyond a shadow of a doubt then death should be given to the ones that killed. Why keep them locked up and pay all that money to keep them there for life? While they sit in prisons they get 3 meals cable tv computers access and can get an education and for what they will never be getting out? If you kill then you need to be killed as well.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

i fully agree they shud be electrocuted for such gruesome act...how can protectors become killers...no point spending govt. money to keep them alive in jail...a stern decision taken will send out a strong word to the public at large that such acts will b condemned.....thank u

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5. myLot reputation of 94/100. magikrose (4951)   ranked 660 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

that is so sad that those parents felt that the only way to restore honor was to kill there daughter and her so called lover. it sickens me to think that there was no other way to handle the situation.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

this is actually very horrid..there are many ways this cud be handled...such grave steps taken by educated people set me thinking...wt is the point of their knowledge if they could not handle this...killers cant b life savers..how can they save someones life when they are so lowly in their outlook....i hope this spreads some awareness among people who still r very conservative in their thoughts and can think of such drastic steps...thanx 4 ur comments..

 
6. myLot reputation of 95/100. giePortlandOR_08 (3894)   ranked 1,244 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

I might get mad, upset or yell sometimes to my daughter but killing ones child is an evil act.I can't do that.I love my daughter and having her is the best thing that happen to me.I know some countries give importance more to their honour and pride.So i guess having their daughter in relationship with their servant can destroy their name so maybe thats why they kill them.I don't understand this kind of principle.I value my family more than anything else.I live for them so i don't understand how can a parent killed their daughter.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

However strongly one feels abt pride honor and all that but this is just not acceptable anywhere i think...this is absolutely evil as u said...thank u

 
7. myLot reputation of 98/100. lingli_78 (10204)   ranked 1,280 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

OMG... this is so sad... i can't imagine a parent can kill his own flesh and blood... what kind of a parent is he??? i feel pity for the child... i hope he will get punished as severely as possible for his actions... how scary it is... take care and have a nice day...


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

hi lingli,
i fully agree with u child is the lifeline of the house and family....however bad he may b i can never take this drastic step....i want to actually see them punished....thanx for ur comments

 
8. myLot reputation of 92/100. mikeysmom (1994)   ranked 1,575 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

this is a horrible story. there is nothing my son could do that i would not forgive him for. i cannot even imagine doing such a thing to my son or anyone else for that matter. how sad...


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

hi mikeysmom this is indeed very sad....i hope people become more aware that such cannibal act are not supported by anyone....and in the name of family honor and status is crap...thnax for ur views

 
9. myLot reputation of 89/100. chintoo07 (3208)   ranked 213 out of 7,185 in family   2 years ago

Hello nupats Ji,
Everything is possible now-a-days. It is machine-age (Kal-Yuga), there are no human-values. No on eis concerned about any body else except one-self. So for personnal gain even father can do that, after he is her father. Savour is turning killer. It is like nature. nature savour for all of us, our existance is due to nature and at times and mostly it is felt that nature is taking lives by makinf earth-quakes and other disasters. have a nice time.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

hi chintoo,
i agree Kal yug hai...but such things cannot b justified by kal yug also...there is hindi saying child can b bad to parents but parents can never b bad..anyway this is very sad..i agree with u doomsday might come not that i m looking forward fot it...have a nice day...r u in India? (bcoz of the ji that u always put)..

 
10. myLot reputation of 72/100. jannijanni (563)   2 years ago

this is devastating....exactly as you have said: it's hard to believe that for honor, [arents can kill their child as easy as that.

in this time and age, social status in a relationship isn't that important at all or if in some culture it is, i hope not to the extant that they're gonna kill for it.


myLot reputation of 94/100. nupats (1297)   ranked 249 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

i fully agree with u...such acts are condemened by all cultures, communities and countries...i care hoots to such moral values if my child does this i find alternatives i wud scold and give spnking also and b very furious but not this...this is out of imagination...thank u for ur views...i hope people who have doubts that familys honor is everything and to whom such acts are acceptable read all these reviews and see how all detest them globally...


myLot reputation of 89/100. chintoo07 (3208)   ranked 213 out of 7,185 in family  2 years ago

Hello jannijanni Ji,
Here in this case, whatever reported by media is one side of story, we must listen both parties, then arrive at conclusion. First word from Dr Talwar happen to be declining. But, as I have my basics with 'Criminology and froensic sciences', I am doubtful if Dr Talwar is talking correctly. He is under covering-up the issue. Probably, he must have been noticed Or even Dr. talwar might have noticed Servant and Girl in compromising posture. Any story would be called best, if reader only gets finals from last word/page. So let's have patience to wait and watch.

 
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