My Son is being stupid and because of a woman! VENTING  

Here is the story; He met this gal who is a well known "Hustler" of men who are disability either state or social security and either have SSD or expect to get an settlement. She has 3 sons, three different dads. She thank God cannot have more kids but she has a SD for one. My son thought he was in "LOVE" with her three years ago. Inspite of all his and our religious convictions he shacked up with her (Our church pastor even told him it was wrong and fornincation or adultry) He said well she did not want to get married did not believe in it and did not want to go to church. He took his kids and one of hers to church. Well then he caught her with another guy and they fought he came home to sulk and pout. Then six months later she ensnared him again. She lives in Section 8 type housing. In a 3 bedroom. Her oldest son 17.9 years has one huge bedroom to himself and his brothers share a room and this woman has her room. My son tried to get her to marry him she refused but wanted him in her bed and to babysit her boys. Then alarming things came up and she mentioned how he could buy her a house with his $54,000 back settlement for her and her boys. She tried to convince him to give up total rights to see his kids, he considered it. Just to be with her. Apparently the sex is that good is all I can figure. She has health problems and smokes like a fish.

Well at the time one of her boys was hitting on his 9 year old then daughter and she complained and was accused by this woman of enticing her son. My son sided with this stupid "B" Then she told my son who gave her his entire check and all his food stamps, ran errands and cooked for her and babysat he was not pulling his weight or contributing.

This after she finally said she would marry him and took a family heirloom ring of $1200 worth from him. Then some ex came back who suddenly came into his settlement with a $2500 ring and she dumped my son like a hot coal. He came home hurt, angry and vowed never to see her again. GRRRR wish he had. The problem is she lives two doors down from his best friend. Who now is moving away and wanted my son to house sit while he went to Wisconsen for a month to get a house, settle his kids etc. So she once again wiggled and wormed her way into my sons life.

Once again he moved in with her and is shacking. Now here is what makes me mad his daughter is now 12 and has breasts and recently started her period. They told her she can sleep on the living room floor this summer for six weeks when she is there with him and on weekends during the school year. The oldest boy 17 plus has a huge room he rarely stays in as he has a girlfriend now he stays with. The other two boys and my sons son share a small bedroom with bunks.

What is worse up until 2 weeks ago my son was living with us and his kids each had their own room. Don't get me wrong. I would love my son to be with the right person but this woman is selfish, abusive and a hustler and uses men and even other women on disability until she uses them up or gets tired of them. She said her sons need thier room and privacy and his daughter doesn't. His daughter had been working with CHINS and her school counselor to come and live with her dad rather than her mom who is NEVER there for her she works nights, sleeps days and is gone most weekends with her new husband. The kids are left alone for hours and so they CHIN was helping to work for the kids to come live with my son and us. Because of their current enviroment.

Now my son decided he wants to be with this woman permently, he takes her youngest son to church. She won't marry him though and treats his daughter like trash and it is okay with him because "it is her house and kids and she works and pays most the bills" NONE Of us like this woman she is nasty all the family and his friend told him NO NOT again! He says he loves her bah I think it is just the sex not love. Sadly a Christian woman single/divorced really was interested in him very nice personality and sweet and pretty and slender and he said I just don't "FEEL" a connnection this is the one the family and friends really liked and he was interested until B woman entrapped him again I think I should have named him Sampson. Mostly she said no to sex until marriage and he had been celebate for 2 years. He knows it is wrong, knows it is against his and our religious belief. Now he is letting his daughter get pushed around again and tells me she doesn not mind but she cried and told me and her cousins she hates L and her kids and how daddy is crazy again like last time.

She wants to know if she can come and live with me and her papa. I don't know what the laws are about that. But I know living with her mother has been unhappy and lonely and now her dad is being a jerk. I am worried and she does need her privacy.

I told my son if he HAS to be with this woman why don't they at least try and find a bigger house on section 8 as he qualifies. He said she told hims she likes her house. It is a dump and looks trashy and run down.

I think it is cause all her exes and lovers know where she is and she will eventually kick my son to the curb again about Christmas time like she did both times before. When it comes to gifts. He bought her kids nice stuff and she got nothing for his and she booted him. I am praying and praying and praying God will wake him up. What would you do?

We also all told him if he would even have a civil ceremony where they say wedding vows we could accept that. But she said she does not believe in marriage. She hates church and he does not keep and said he won't keep Christmas, Easter or Halloween and she does. I think this is going to be the breaker again as it was both times before that and the kids. Pray for him please and my grandkids.