So, what do you do when your spouse or boyfriend is being rude or mean to you...

Sounds like my house daily. I have learned to ignore and go into another room. Sometimes he follows me and continues on and again I just remove myself from the situtation even if it means going outside. I have found it is a waste of my time to say anything because then I am playing into the negative and as I am working on being positive I refuse to get sucked in. I have realized though since I have started this he has settled down a bit too. He knows of my positive attitude transformation because now the girls are talking about it too so when he has one of his blow ups I have found him coming back a bit faster and saying I should not have yelled it is not helping. So hey if it works for me it will work for anyone!

I'm sorry I don't. My husband isn't a morning person and I am so he wakes up and runs to work but he isn't grumpy. When he is under stress he is way grumpy, and I just tell him that he needs to work out whatever he is stressed about that it is bothering me and the children and he figures it out. So, has your husband always been grumpy or is just now that he is sleeping in? Maybe he is getting too much sleep.

This is simple. Tell them that that is being RUDE and they'd better knock it off, or they can find somewhere else to hang their hat!
Sympathetic?! If he's sick it might be one thing, as he wouldn't be feeling well and I could gove him a mini-break? Otherwise..I would not put up with that.

well in 6 years of being with my hubby i never encountered a situation like yours... We do have few arguments and fights but we both have the same attitude like when he's hot mood i will just keep my mouth shut and dont fight back to any words he's saying and coz that may lead to an argument and it will make matter worst... i let him tell me everything even if its bad or good ill juz hear it then if i feel that he's a bit calm then thats the time i will talk to him and clear things up... we never let days pass not clearing things up between us...

well as for you... Understanding why your spouse behaves this way should make it easier to keep your cool...i think you both love each other... u cant make him change... however,you can make a conscious effort to change. Act instead of react. Take time to find your calm when he makes u angry Remember you don't want to fight dirty and say things that you don't mean... Don't handle each other, handle yourself. I hope this help...

I explained to my husband that it hurts no matter when it's done, whether he knows he's doing it or not. We both make the effort to think clearly, in the presence of the other one. When I hear his voice, I know I'm AWAKE and to start acting awake (around him anyway!!!) and he knows to treat me that way too. The rest of the world needs to wait till I've had my coffee, but my husband and I are able to respect eachother the second we wake up, because we love eacother that much.

Yeah that sounds like my hubby ha ha!!! He isn't always a morning person and when hes grumpy I just ignore him, its the best way and hope he gets out of it! But what makes me laugh the most if he's awake first he has to wake me up like this morning for example he says 'oh I wish I'd put the tv on for a bit, don't suppose you could' anyway by then I was awake and I was so cross with being woken up by him I got out of bed and put the tv on, he then said oh I was awake first and I was like 'no because I've put a load of washing on and put the bin out and come back to bed, so that shut him up!! After that I was awake, swine, if i'd done that to him he would have been well p***ed off! Anyway thats men for you!! Just eep smiling thats what I do even though it might be fake LOL Take care xx

I am sorry and hope this does notsound judgemental
but I would say grow up and start acting like an'adult
as I have to all the time. Quit babying him and start'
to talk it out. say something like I am so tired of
you being a grumpus all the time. how would you like
it if I acted that way all the time?He is your husband
so you should know how to talk to him heart to heart.dont
pussyfoot with him but be a tad masculine and confront'
him with his ill temper.why should it make it worse?

You tell him to stop or you'l;l put him over your knee and give him a good spanking. Oh, wait...that might make matters worse!

Seriously, sounds like he needs a reality check. I know kids that behave like that and we call them brats.

I wouldn't tolerate that rubbish.

If it happened a few times and I was just as bratty maybe.

well, i just ignore him and stay away from him... he can speaks to the wall and nobody will answer him... if he gets worst, i will walk away from the house and take a walk myself... i just leave him until he cools down and realise what he had done... and of course, he has to apologise... take care and have a nice day...

That sounds like my husband. I know his problem isnt me or the kids though. Are you guys having trouble financially (or atleast does he think you are), does he like his job? That sort of stuff. We had a hard month last month and financially it is starting to catch up with us. That is the reason my husband acts the way he does. He always doesnt really care for his job and that doesnt help either, but his excuse for not changing jobs is he makes good money there and its easy. So he stays. Which....causes him to be grumpy some days.

There is even some days where I'm feeling going and have everything in the house done, the kids have been good that day etc that I will do a little extra for him. Such as (my husband works evenings and gets home about midnight) there are very few occasions that I will put his dinner aside and not cook until its about time for him to come home so he can eat a hot dinner. Or I will give him a massage...just special little stuff makes a big difference sometimes when he gets in one those moods really bad.