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myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers 4 years ago

This is an old tradition that lots of people partake in, but do we know why? I know it makes a lot of noise so everyone will look at them as they travel to where they are going, but I'd like to know where the tradition came from.
Where did it start?
WHY???

Also are there any other wedding traditions that you have in your family?
What are they?

 

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Angelwhispers (4603) response was accepted on 6/10/2008.
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1. myLot reputation of 100/100. jillhill (17704)   ranked 62 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

I wonder why too.....and I remember a time when they used to write just married all over the car with shaving cream...and it took the finish off a few! I think that tradition as calmed down....In my family though we have a tradition that when there is a wedding all the aunts sing....going to the chapel! LOL....it embarasses almost everyone...even though we aren't half bad! LOL


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

My cousin got married and they put shaving creme on the car. Her new hubby was FURIOUS!!!
I was working at a detail shop at the time and offered to clean up the car and re-wax it for them for free, but I think he just wanted something to rant over because they never did come in.


myLot reputation of 99/100. GardenGerty (35334)   ranked 54 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

In my first in law family the bride's brother had my husband's brother pulled over on the way to the reception, and they had secretly stolen his wallet.shocked He got put into a squad car and handcuffed.blush (The guy had connections, he was a small town firefighter, and got the cops to join in the "fun"). It really hurt the bride's feelings that the joke went so far. She had thought they were just supposed to pull him over, then say, "congratulations" and send him on his way. Boy was she MAD.angry


myLot reputation of 100/100. jillhill (17704)   ranked 62 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

I don't blame her.....I would be mad too!

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2. myLot reputation of 92/100. dumblnddzzy (10631)   ranked 3,909 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

HI Tammyr!! MY take on this is this: The shoes arre for the many roads the couple will travel down as a married couple. And the cans are just to irritate the shiat out of people..lol...Lori


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

LOL Then should we use NEW shoes? Seems like they would be better prepared! LOL
Really that is a good thought though! and the cans CAN be very irritating!

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3. myLot reputation of 98/100. Valenas (1138)   ranked 89 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

Perhaps the shoes tie into the phrase "Walk in someone else's shoes." In that phrase, shoes represent life. The old shoes, may then, represent their old life, the one before they were married. They might tie it on the back of the car as a way of putting their old life behind them.

I am not sure of the can's use. Maybe it is to attract attention? "Hey, look at me, I am married now, and I am starting a new life."


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

That is a good reason! There is a link down there VVVV
if you want to find the reasons behind any traditions in weddings.
I still haven't found where the cans come in though.confused

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. GardenGerty (35334)   ranked 54 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

I do not know if that is part of the tradition of chivaree or not. When my daughter married, her new husband put her in the wheel barrow and wheeled her around the block. I think my brother looked that one up for me and he said it meant that no matter what it took that Jason would take care of Samantha, even if he had to carry her, or push her in a wheel barrow.(Old European, even if they could not afford a horse.)I had thought it was just to embarrass her so to speak. He said he did not know why, but his family always did it, and he was the youngest of five siblings.


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

What a sweet tradition! I wouldn't be embarrassed at all! I think it is great that he did it in the spirit of family tradition!

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5. myLot reputation of 89/100. Angelwhispers (4603)   ranked 133 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

I have always heard that leather was used on the back of carriages to ward off evil. Here is a link on certain wedding traditions if you want to check it out. It gives a different reason for shows however.

http://www.hbs-e.com/wedd...

I also have always heard that the noise that cans make would ward off evil spirits from the newly wedded.... LMAO I cannot find a straight answer to this question though as every page I look at has a different version.


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

Thanks for the link. I will go check it out! I am sure it will be woth taking a look at!
(I really started this because I am too lazy to do a search!)blush
I guess there are as many reason behind each tradition as there are traditions, eh?


myLot reputation of 89/100. Angelwhispers (4603)   ranked 133 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

You just reminded me of a response I gave to this guy that asked such an asinine question, and no one was responding to it.. I went in and said Do a google for Gods Sake! I must have been in a bad mood.... LOL


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

I like this reason that I got from the link you gave:
"The best known, which is still upheld, is to tie shoes to the back of the newlyweds' car. This has evolved from the Tudor custom where guests would throw shoes at the newlywed couple. It was considered lucky if they or their carriage were hit."shockedlol


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

LOL I can't see you being that mean!! LOL I do search when I want an answer to something like this, but I thought it would be more fun to get others thoughts on the tradition. I also want some other traditions from around the world. I got everything I wanted and then some! Thanks again for the link, it is a great one!

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6. myLot reputation of 95/100. gabs8513 (23375)   ranked 560 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

Lol Tammy I really do not know where it came from
The Tradition in my Family is which I will not follow lol the Bride gets Kidnapped and the Groom has to find her
I really do not know where these have all come from lol


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

Angel gave a great link with customs and the origins.
I have heard of people kidnapping one or the other of the newlyweds. I think they said it originated in Greece, but I may be wrong.

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. weemam (6718)   ranked 3,497 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

I don't know pal , but it would nice to find out , Maybe it's because we are always skint after a wedding and we maybe can't afford NEW shoes :) xx


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

LOL That is a great reason!! I know weddings can be expensive, even if it is a small tado!


myLot reputation of 98/100. weemam (6718)   ranked 3,497 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

See!! and you thought I was daft lol :) :) xx

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. danishcanadian (24610)   ranked 41 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

The tradition of cans, I would imagine, is just to draw attention to the newleyweds. Unfortunately, I read somewhere that in the olden days a father would hand the bride's shoes to her husband to symbolize a TRANSFER OF AUTHORITY from father to husband.

I think that tradition stinks, and if, at our family wedding reception (we eloped last year) anyone goes near our car with a shoe, I'm going to hit them over the head with it!!


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

LOL The link Angel gave said that too, and, they use to throw shoes at the newlyweds and if they OR the carriage got hit it was good luck! How can a concussion bring good luck!?!?

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9. myLot reputation of 86/100. hiccup (8758)   4 years ago

It's FALLIC, Its a wish for good fertility and good luck.

I just found that out, another useless INFO for me to use sometime in the future.

Here is a site that will back up what I have just said,


Why do we tie shoes/cans to the back of newlywed cars? | Answerbag
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10. wwwtrade9net (18)   ranked 16,167 out of 19,259 in questions & answers   4 years ago

it is really upset !!!


myLot reputation of 95/100. tammyr (3462)   ranked 330 out of 19,259 in questions & answers  4 years ago

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