Letting Go Or No Letting Go?

I think that most people have trouble letting go of something at one time or another in their life and i am no different.

Hi petitehye, thanks for coming with this nice discussion. based on my experience everyone of us could say that "I'm letting go" on those things that you'd been listed. But to be very honest the word speaks more loud than the real action. It's not that easy to let go on those. I did have some experiences on ex,anger, dying loved one,friendship,lover,bitterness,emotions,past hurts and shame. At once I was trapped on my feelings but I did realize that I could be bound in the situation. I need to release those unwanted feelings to ease myself. As I said the words speaks louder than the real actions. It was so hard till I was making some decision to take some time for my own,I mean take time at the place which no one ever know me. After sometimes I could free myself from those but I still feel that hurt on those sometimes. But anyway, after getting through such time I could let go for all of them.

Yes I have and I think most of us here have had problems with letting go of something that has happened to us. I've had many but I've had to let go or it would destroy me and believe me, it's not worth hanging onto. Once a person lets go of the past, they tend to feel free once again and I'm one of them.

I find myself quite easy in letting go of things especially emotions and disappointments.. Just a run for me will do..

But when it coems to relationship and lover, it's the hardest for me because love and real feelings are involved.. PLus, we dun love everybody, it's a kind a feeling that doesn't come often.. Thus, i find it hadest to let go for these two..

Hello my friend petitehye Ji,

I will apply one of the followings to keep myself cool and balanced.

S A T S A N G
If one can practice/implement any of the following, one will owe the whole world, free from all worldly bickering: -

(A) ”If You Can balance/ stable your mind, when they are otherwise around you and at the same time blaming you”.

(b) “If you have belief on yourself, when others have doubt on you and at the sane time you strongly oppose their belief of their doubt”

(c) “If you can wait for Good/ Bad days embark and you do not loose patience/get disheartened of waiting”.

(d) “Everyone is deceiving you and you are not”.

(e) “ Every body hates you and you do not, at the same time, you are not proud to be ‘good’ and ‘wise’.

(f) “ If you Can dream, but do not allow them to overpower you, and you Can ‘think’ but at the same time, do not live into dreams of ‘thinking”.

(g) “If you can welcome ‘gains’ and ‘defeat’ with open hearts and they do not unbalance your mind”.

(h) “If you Can accept your own words in twisted/mutilated/distorted form happily by ‘fools’ and they do not
involve you in their bad plans”.

(i) “ If you can bear, the items made by you ‘raised to ashes, for which you took whole life to build them, and at the same time you can once again order your tired hands to restart making”.

(j) “ If you can take one chance to reduce your gains in your life, ‘loose’ or ‘gain’

(k) “If you can, after loosing every bit in your life, get ready fresh to obtain the same with total energy from all corners of your body and mind, without uttering a word even”.


(l) “ If you Can compel your heart, mind and limbs, when they ARE so tired and refuse to accept any thing, except that your ‘belief’ and ‘desire’ to order them that they have to march forward and not falling back”.

(m) “ If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “.

(n) “ If you ARE unharmed by people loving you and people hating you”.

(o) “ I you Can respect everybody within the limits, at the same time nobody”.

(p) “ IF YOU REMEMBER THE UNEXQUSED MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE, AND EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE SAME”.

Then, the whole world belongs to you only and every thing that exists on this, at the same time you fall under the category of ‘ACTUAL INSAN’, which is greatest achievement in the life than any thing else”.

(OM)
Have a nice time.

To me is hard to let go if the person has left you with a problem that needs to be solve. I move on,but I don't associate with people who have hurt me in the past. I forgive them,but I stay away from negative people.

i think its not actually the letting go, cos if you need to let go of something it will go anyway if you like it or not i think its the memory and whether you like it or not you cant let go because its always there in your head you could always try thinking of it in a different way or get new happier memories and it'll eventually be like a faded memory but will still always be there

yup. letting go of a relationship. i had been in an unfair relationship before for 8 years. even when he cheated on me a lot and lied, i just kept on forgiving him. not really because i love him to the highest level but because i was scared to be alone again.

good thing, i woke up in reality after 8 years.

it wasn't that easy to move on but i was able to. and after 2 years, i found the love of my life.

anne

I'm not the type to hold a grudge, but when it comes to the ex husband's continued antics I find that difficult.

I think people have such a hard time "letting go" because their experiences impact who they've become today. If you want to forget the past, are you trying to forget a part of yourself? I think it has something to do with having unconditional love for yourself. No one is perfect. Know this is true.

I dwell on my past a lot. I've been getting much better at dealing with how it affects me. I will not forget where I have been and what I have been through, because I have learned the lessons I needed to because of these situations.

Some people have no sense of commitment, and that's why it's so easy for them to push things behind them. But never feeling that you might lose something you want forever, and not wanting to lose that, well if you've never felt it, you've never really loved...