Faithfulness?

Hey subtle- I am not too sure why you have an eye for other men. It is human nature to look at attractive men. I do this all the time just as men like to look at attractive men. But if you desire sexual relations outside of your marriage then something is wrong. Do you communicate with your husband? Can you figure out what is missing in your marriage? Does your husband know how you feel? It is good that you realize that something is wrong. It might be a good idea to seek out professional help such as a marriage counselor. Good Luck to you.

Hi,

This is a very natural problem.
I think most people go through this stage.
And the more you worry about it, the more the attraction
toward the other sx.

It's like you are being tested.

So let me tell you, there is nothing wrong with you.
Your only guilty of being a human being.LOL.

You can stop that feeling by doing more things with your hubby.

Let me tell you something.
SX with men that don't love you, will only disappoint you.
If you give in, you will feel so dirty and ashamed.
You will feel used.
And that is all it is, you are then letting yourself be used.
Your worth more than that.

And please don't tell your hubby!!!
I did that, I told my husband I had these feeling coming
over me, and as you, I could not understand myself.

My husband was not very sensitive to me, and he was away alot.

My then husband raped me for about 1 year.
Making me think I had done something wrong.
Know he got me feeling guilty,so I had to satisfy him sxually. Normally after I would throw up in the bathroom.

I told him before I took action, that was my fault.

Please, just don't worry about it,it goes away.
You will pass you test.
Keep doing nice things with your hubby.

Sounds to me like he is one in a million!!!
KEEP HIM!!!!LOL!
Not many of those around.

Take care, Margajoe

Hi subtlesubmissive. I'm not sure if you know or not but it kind of (and please don't think I'm judging you in any way) sounds like a sexual addiction.

Men are usually the ones that struggle with it. But I'm sure that it can also affect women as well. It isn't even really about the act of it. It's more of the void that one feels in their heart. You may want to google it and read up on it a little bit more to see if you can make any similar connections with it? Just a suggestion and again please don't think that I'm judging you.

God bless and keep your chin up. With God ALL things are possible. He can change things no matter how difficult it may seem. He loves you and is faithful.

I have no idea what could be causing that, maybe it's at est. If you just look but don't touch then you pass but if you give in to those feelings then maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you something. I have no idea so I won't speculate farther than that but it's the best I can do. Never experienced such a thing before.

Just because you are on a diet it doesn't mean you can't look at the menu-- just don't order.

I think you are normal and nothing doing anything wrong as long as you don't act on it.

Do you feel that you are straying by looking or are you straying there is a very big difference. Just don't cross the line and remember what a great guy your husband is.

Hi..there's nothing wrong to look and admire someone who is attractive for us because it's human nature..as long as you are not sexually committed to him...and maybe you've just misses his sweetness and affection to you..why don't you try to have a sincere talk with him?try to explain how you feel about it..that sometimes he tends to ignore you..and try to exert an effort to save your marriage not to destroy it..because a mistake is not the answer to another mistake..be affectionate to him..try to understand him..love him more than before..maybe one day he'll realize how hard you tried to be a good wife to him..and he'll do the same thing to you..it would be a great help if you both go on a counseling..gudlak..

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Some where you both missing love and effections, it may happend for time being but not all the time for searching new one for sexual relationship, if some one he/she missing soo much time them they may look other doors,before that try to get the things which really made the distance of your sexual relations. If it's cleared by both of you in future life may be very joyfull.Think for yourself where you are missing for his love like you may be following his interesting dress up, you may be not his likely make up, you may be not giving sexual satisfaction, you may be getting his taste which he most likes, ask him with love or plite way. These points may help you, I wish you all the best for your happy life.

I believe you can try this if you are really willing to

If you can go to any indian shop near by, you find something called RAKHI, buy that and tie that to that person whom you are looking at and as per hindu mythology if you tie that RAKHI he becomes you brother. Not really but still you will start looking him like a brother. So all of your bad feelings will vanish.

good day. ask yourself why you think about this to other men? Maybe the answer lies there. Communicate with your husband and tell him what you want from him both emotionally and physically.