Friends Long Gone.  

Hi Angel,
It is good that you felt the need to post this topic. Isn't it amazing that when we are young we can make a pact with our best friends and then nothing comes of it? I was recently thinking of the pact I made with my own friends when I left school. I have seen a few of my friends, but only when I visit my parents. I have moved away and lost contact with at least 2 of them. I feel real lonely for those friendships at times.

We were so close while we were in school. Either I was at their house or they were at my house everyday. My mother sometimes said she had three daughters instead of just one. I don't know what happened, when I moved I sent them my address, and everytime I run into one or the other, I give them my address, but that is as far as it goes.

I guess that means we need to make new friends and treasure them, and keep them close. It isn't that easy for me to get too close to someone, but I do try. Mylot has a lot of good people here, and hopefully we can make good friends here. It will not be the same as our childhood friends, but maybe we can pretend they are our childhood friends.

Nice discussion, by the way. Have a good day!!

HiYa Angel,

I lost contact with all my class mates as soon as I left school.
I was not popular at school, so had no one really to keep touch with.

It appears as though your friend got a bee in her bonnet over something,
And instead of finding out the truth from you,
Just assumed she was right.

If you think life has had some twists up to 30...just wait.
Soon you will be doing things you never would have imagined. Your life will be busy and so much of the stuff you planned to do will just pass you by unnoticed until it's a fleeting thought on your porch after a long day.

When you were younger, you had the world by the tail! When you are older, you realize that it's enough that the world even has a tail at all. Someone else can chase the damn thing.

When you get grandchildren, you lifes twists some more. You will find your tongue is developing scars from biting it watching your own kids do the same dumb things you did. The same ones YOUR parents may have warned you about too... And the new friends you have met will tell you "Talk to the hand, the heads ain't listenin'" when you tell them about the things they are doing. You're old now, and times have changed. Hmmm. Have they really?

It is a ride alright...it is a ride.

Angelwhispers;
So sorry for yor hurt'.
I am wondering how well you know her Husband? Is he the abusive type? Also could your friend be into drugs? I ask, because she's has changed so much.

Wow, how strange was that! And to never have found out what was wrong... that's really terrible! When I was in school, I thought I'd always have contact with my gang of friends, too. There were 4 or 5 of us always together or at least in groups of 2 or 3 and we grew up as friends and neighbors.

Well it worked out that way for about 1.5 years after we graduated and then we started drifting apart. I was sad but not sad enough that I thought I should be the one to do something about it and never did.

Fast forward many years and I actually found one of them online. It was great exchanging emails. For about one WEEK and then no more email. It just happens, I guess. People change and interests change.

There had never been arguments or hard feelings in my case, it's just about drifting and moving in different directions.

Angel, I found your post not only heartfelt but disturbing as well. From your words I have to wonder if something was going on in your friends life that she felt trapped, alone and unable to communicate to anyone. You know even at 18 we are often not mature enough to handle lifes unexpected turns. Maybe she is to embarrassed to reach out to you now and explain what was going on with her at that point in your lives. If it were me I think I would still want to know. I gather this is still upsetting to you. Why not have a visit if you can with your long ago friend and see if there is anything left to mend.

Hello Angelwhispers30,


I too sometimes think of my old friend in those long ago days we were the same always together and we made a pact neve to lose touch and stay frieds, we even talk about all of us pushing prams together with our babies. Now they are all married and moved away and we lost touch. Don't worry about you ex-friend not wanting to know you it because someone had spread bad rumour that you may have said something bad about her which was not true so it hapepens maybe I am wrong. That past now it the future that what matter now.


Tamarafireheart.

Oh Sweety I wish I could make you feel better and tell you why your erstwhile friend treated you that way but I have no idea. Of course we all have friendships that fall by the wayside as we get older , we all change to some degree or another as do our circumstances and priorities but I never had that kind of reaction from a school friend. Whilst I don't stay in constant touch with the friends I had at school when we do meet up it is great to meet them and find out what is going on with them , with one ion particular it is a case of how many more children AND grandchildren she has added to her family!
I do agree that even hardships and bad experiences help us to learn and enrich ouyr lives if we look at things the right way! xxx

I find people, both sexes, can be pretty fickle where friendship is concerned. I'm still friends with my best school friend though we only exchange Christmas cards now. I'd like to be closer but I guess we went in different directions and there's too much water under the bridge. There are many, many other friends who were supposedly close but they have faded away. Are people insecure do you think and perhaps expect too much...like always wanting the other friend to carry the responsibility for keeping things going? When I've reconnected with old friends I've found that there's nothing there. Even my best friend of 15 years turned on me when we were once again not separated and living in separate states - it was like she was a different person.

Angel, I had the same dreams & goals for my friends. I don't know where any of them are if they are alive or dead. This makes for a sad memory. I'm sorry your friend treated you the way she did, that was uncalled for completely. You have tried your best, now it's up to her, maybe she feel's guilty for treating you the way she did & doesn't know how to 'undo' it. If it were me I would try one last time to get in touch with her & try one more time. Maybe she's mellowed now that she has children & will be different. Who knows till you try...Lori