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I know someone that neglects her two year old son. Should I report her? email this discussion to a friend?

kh1975 (99)   ranked 3,719 out of 27,822 in people5 months ago

This girl is twenty one, single, and lives in filth. she drinks around her child. sleeps late and lets him wonder through the house. her house is so dirty, and stinks. she hasnt done laundry for seven months. i cannot even describe here how bad it really is. the problem is that if i turn her in to social services, i risk her finding out i did it. we have many mutual friends. i feel horrible not doing anything, but i want to do the right thing. i am just confused at what that is. and i feel guilty for being confused. should i just mind my own business or should i turn her in? i really think she loves the child, she just doesnt know how to be a parent. please advise me.

 
 
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tags:  children, child, neglect, dirty, life
 
1. myLot reputation of 91/100. snoopy88 (199)   ranked 13,409 out of 27,822 in people   5 months ago

I think you should report about this otherwise the child will grow up to be dangerous. Sounds like the little boy doesn't have a healthy environment where he can grow up and learn.

I've watched a lot of Crime Investigation/Forensic Files documentaries. Nearly all of the killers (or equivalence) have a very troubled/disturbed childhood life. They don't have a good role model displayed for them in their childhood thinking that either the world had betray them or they should follow what their parents does.

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2. hevenwang (11)   5 months ago

maybe youshould told her how to be a good parent.she maybe have her own undergoing or she maybe do not find her faults. wish you could help her

 
3. Drakate (16)   ranked 7,220 out of 27,822 in people   5 months ago

let's put this another way. You put a innocent child's life at risk of death by ignoring him just cause you don't want a row with the girl(or something) or you save the child by reporting her and IF she finds out (I'm sure social services keep this stuff confidential and she has no reason to suspect you) then you have a grudge with someone you probably aren't so friendly with.

Do the right thing and report her- it's a child life over your own needs

and note that you shouldn't feel guilty- it's a tough situation that can make anyone's mind go weird. Hope everything goes well for you and the child

 
4. myLot reputation of 67/100. spalladino (3939)   ranked 1,433 out of 27,822 in people   5 months ago

Loving your child and being a responsible parent are two different things, with the second being more important than the first. This baby is too young to be wandering around the house unsupervised while mommy is sleeping and living in fiithy conditions is not good for his health. In my state Child Protective Services will keep your information private if you file a report so the person being rported has no idea who called and, in a situation like your friend's, they will work with her to help her be a better parent, not simply walk in and take her son. Maybe this is what she needs to push her into behaving in a more responsible way. I understand that you feel loyalty to your friend but who is protecting this child? How would you feel if something happened to him and you did nothing to prevent it?

 
5. myLot reputation of 84/100. GranTurismoGuru (161)   ranked 2,376 out of 27,822 in people   5 months ago

I agree with Drakate.

You have a moral dilemma, but you would never forgive yourself if something bad happened to the child. You would keep thinking "If only I had reported this ..."

 
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