How do you let go after a failed relationship?

Its not easy to do,

Not like death when you know that the other one will not return or walk in the door.

Breaking up is hard as you are never sure what the next minute will bring to you.
You have many feelings and they are all mixed.

You are hurt, betrayed, lied to, many things that belong to you have been taken or stolen from you.

At the same time your love is there and you could put things together again only if the other one was willing.

It will take so they say 12 month to 2 1/2 years to get over the break up, before you can move on.

Each day is hard but each day one hope it get better just to get to the end of the day,

Only if it was different.

HICCUP/

I have been into many failed relationships but I can't say that I already mastered the art of letting go. One thing that others don't understand is that I still befriended my former partners. Well, I don't want to hold grudges against them even the break up was not really my proposition. But I think that friendship is a way of letting go of the feelings that you had for someone. I admit that sometimes there is an urge to get back to the feelings but I always remind myself that being friends is the best way for both of us. Yet, I don't really close the doors. I am still open for the relationship to be what is used to be. But I rather not to impose it or try to suggest it to the person. I'll just wait and see what will happen. Cheers!

The relationship dose't mean only physical relation more then that it is the relation of two soul after it become two body and One soul means in this relation person feel pain of each other and they share their Joy and sorrow to all over life . they live togather and die to each other . I believe that fail relationship means broken of two heart that move ina different direction if the relation is faild every movement which passed in life fread away.Faild relation never tie same feeling again. so try to understand each other problem and reduce to risk of fail relation.

You know you are so right crazyoverpurple!! Each one is different and unique. Circumstances vary with each one. Like for instance, the man that I love today is far different from my ex-fiance. My ex-fiance was terrible to me. Sure there were good times but the bad times outweighted the good by a considerable measure. I left him because I needed to; for the sake of my sanity and my children.

Now, the man I am with now, we have had our ups and downs but not because of each other, but because of my family. Now I told him the other day that I would leave him if it meant him being safe because I love him enough to do it. Will it hurt?.............Yes it would. Just the thought of not being with him scares me. I told him that if we were to ever break up that I would want us to be friends. I said that to my ex-fiance and he said that he couldn't do that and he stayed true to his word up until just several months ago.

Heck, it took a loooooong time for me to let go. That's something I regret because I am not getting any younger and the time I spent sulking could have been time spent productively. I learned to let go when I had disciplined myself to accept reality - that he was not the right guy for me, that we were not compatible. The compatibility thing was the issue. I had to look after my own interests, you know. I told myself that I had to love myself more. It took 6 months from the time I woke up with that idea until the month I got over him finally. But I was mourning for him for 22 months! Dayum. Lesson learned.

Based on my personal experience, I don't think there is an art of letting go or whether you master it. The reason I say so is because you do not go through failed relationships so many times so as to master the art of it. Each relationship which fails has its own uniqueness. Letting go only happens with passage of time, understanding and deviation of your mind into other positive things.

I guess I've been lucky in love as never really had to move on - my husband I've been with for a long time and there was never anyone who came close until I met him so I didn't really have to 'move on' from anyone.
I agree though that it can be a horrible time from seeing how friends are and it would be nice if nobody had to deal with that kind of stuff! x

I didn't get mad when my ex bf of 7 years got somebody pregnant.He was more freaked out by my non-reaction.He wanted me to yell at him, to get so mad because of his guilt.I continued to be his friend and I even talked to the girl he got pregnant.I didn't know he'd been two-timing for such a long time.I cried my heart out.I think it was the best weight-loss program I had (like 10lbs in a week)...haha!What really woke me up and urged me to move on was the fact that he was still lying to me even after I discovered his unfaithfulness.At first I chose to ignore the glaring tell-tale signs because we've been together for so long but it came to a point that I couldn't feign anymore.I forgave him so that made me move on easily.When I think of him, I force myself to think of the lies and deceit he told me that I chose to ignore at first.That made it easier for me to forget.

Initially I had trouble for many days. It is very hard to erase those memories. I couldn't forget those thing.In course of time the pains are getting lowered but it doesn't completely erases. This is common for the case if you loved some one and he/she betrayed without any practical reason. If your relationship just got broken from both sides then it causes a little effect on mind.

well it's not easy getting over a failed relationship but if it is really over then all you can do is move on swiftly and regain your esteem and confidence, maybe find things to do instead of dewlling on what was or what would be or what could have been, it's painful and it distracts you but if you have strength to move on then that's what has to be done....