Parents in an old age home...?

Maybe he is physically and emotionally unable to take care of his mother. Maybe he works but can't afford a nurse for her. There are many reasons why a person would put the parent in a Nursing home.

I agree. Although it is hard to take care of elderly parents I can't see putting them in an old age home. They are always so depressing. My husband said that sometimes when parents get that old that have to be watch all the time to make sure they take their meds. get enough excersize, & don't fall & hurt themselves. He also said that not all nursing homes are like that. Some are actually like a vacation resort. I agree some are...if you can afford a place like that which most people can't. I would rather hire a nurse to come to my home & help me take care of my Mom then put her in some depressing nursing home where the elderly stay until they die. Of course I would need some help to take care of my Mom, but to put her in a nursing home? I just can't see myself doing that!

Hello,I don't understand what makes the youngsters of today to send the parents in their old age to Old Age Home or Nursing Home run by the NGOs or private people.how they forget all their sacrifice for their education,health care,and everything.they should understand that what they are doing today for their old parents they will one day face the same problem in their old age.their children will also send them to the old age home.this culture should be banned.fortunately the government of India have enacted law for punishment to the sons of the abandoned parents.I think in India such things may not happen to the older people.thanx.

Alok, it is a real pity that some people do not hesitate to send their parents to old age home. It is feels disgusting to me. I would never ever do it, come what may. If you have seen the movie 'Lage raho Munna Bhai', the very issue was raised very effectily in that movie. Now you are telling the same story from a real life incident. That fellow, who left his mother at old age home, perhaps would have forgotten that one day, he will be as old as his mother and if his children sends give him the same treatment, how would that fellow feel.

I could not let my parents live in an old age home. They have raised me and given me everything over the years and are great parents; doing that to them is a slap in the face. After everything, you just throw them away for strangers to watch them. I would rather take care of my parents, healthy or sick than have other people take care of them, not knowing how they are being treated. Thats my opinion.

somethimes it is better if a person goes there, for different reasons

This is sad! I cannot see this happening under any circumstances. Just imagine the plight of the parent who has to leave his/her family after all that he/she does for it! This is an unhappy thing in our society. I heard that a law is to be implemented where the parents would have the right to the children's property as well! And the Children would have to look after their parents. This is a good idea, the effectiveness is cloudy though in a society like ours.

However, having said this, I know of a family where the widowed mother opted for the old home and is very happy there. It was her choice and both the son, his wife, kids and her have wonderful understanding among them!

Sadly, this is but an exception.

I think that old age homes are necessary evils. And I don't mean that in a wrong way. I would rather keep my parents with me. My Dad passed away many years ago and my Mom is still living. She is 87 and is in a wheelchair. She gets around great and lives in her home with my brother. Now to address the old age homes. Sometimes a person wants to take care of their parents or parent as the case may be and is not able to. Due to a few things. There being a lot of lifting to help the parent out of the chair and help them go to the bathroom. Different things like that. Or the person has a schdule where they are required to be at work for many hours. Not enough room in the home. Those are just a few that come to mind. The biggest thing is when a loved one is put in a home to continue visiting regularly and phoning and even sending them a card saying that they are loved. I worked in a nursing home and it was a sad thing. There were many people there that had no visitors and they had family that lived close by. There was one person that his son lived right in town. And he wasn't the only one like that there were many and it tore me up to see this. These people don't deserve to be done this way. I can understand having to put them in a old age home what I don't understand is the person and family not coming to visit them regularly. That is the sad part of a old age home.

Good day.. I can't imagine myself to leave my parents in home for the aged. I just can't I'd rather cut my time from every possible way I can even from mylot and take care of her than put her in there. Putting her there is also like killing a part of me. I love her and I can't bear to leave her. If ever her time would come I want to be there for her and hold her till her last breath.

Hi Alokn99,
I agree with you 100%. Unfortunately I don't have any parents:-( but if I did I would never even contemplate a nursing home.
I work for an agency where we train Nurse Aides and LPNs and I've heard horror stories about the treatment of patients at nursing homes. Many, many, young ladies and men too, that have trained for this type of job have opted for something other than nursing because of the people (nurses & aides) who have demonstrated disdain for the elderly...even supervisors!!
I have told my daughters many times: if I ever get too old where I cannot take care of my own basic needs I will truly "check myself out of life"!!
By the way, I read all the responces you received and am soooooooooooo happy to see that many would NOT place their parents or parent in a home!!
Kudos to them and you too!!
~G~