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myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships1 month ago

Hi Mylloters

How often do you visit your neighbours, and vice versa or are you also of the private type?

One of the reasons I'm asking this question is an article I read today on CNN about a 70 year-old diabetic man who had been blind for years, and who was found dead in his house sitting on a couch in front of a blaring tv set.
The strange thing is that he has been dead for over a year in that very position, and even stranger is that his neighbours assumed, when they did not see him all that time, that he was in hospital or a long-term care facility. In fact, the police only found him after investigating a report of a burst water pipe, which means that if it was not for the report he would've continued sitting in front of the tv set for who knows how long.

My point is that had his neighbours visted him regularly, the situation would definitely have been different. So, is visiting neighbours something that should be encouraged, does it have any benefits or should they just be left unto themselves on the possible basis that you just can't be bothered or your neighbours most probably have their own circle of friends? Also, do neighbours visit each other in your country?




 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. valeria1 (1386)   ranked 3,484 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

Damn! I should start to talk to the neighbours! I never did but I will start for sure!


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

Hey valeria i hope your surety will come into honest result. Thanks for agree

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. mimpi1911 (5367)   ranked 4 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

Darshu
this is so sad! Just imagine the plight of the man when he was dying, such a lonely death he had! But we are approaching days when this would become an obvious end to most of us. Just imagine our lifestyle today. Most live ion multi storied buildings alone and we have no time to peek in next door. we hardly care and stop for others. we have forgotten to smile, pat, hug and hold hands!!

having said this, I live in an old neighborhood where I have grown up with aunts, uncles, grand ma, grand pas around. Its like a beautiful community and even though I hardly visit others my mom is very good in socialising. she has her buinch of friends and they party off and on. I scold her many times but this incident made me realise little of it in fact so good!!

Thanks for sharing this.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

Hi mimpi thanks for for response as well as feeling for old (died) men. I would like to say thanks to your loving mother for socialising.

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3. myLot reputation of 59/100. GilbrosTMPro (283)   ranked 6,692 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

Just greet them in the morning when they going out or you can give them some delicious food infront their gater or door to make them befriend.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

hey thanks for idea:)

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4. myLot reputation of 90/100. cursedsoul (596)   ranked 2,544 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

Oh my god, I haven't visited my neighbours in like..3 years! Its mainly exchange of pleasantries when we see them. Its not like they want to be visited either.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

hey curse thanks for response.

 
5. wannafly (43)   ranked 10,926 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

Well,i remember when i was a boy,i often play with the neighbours' kids,our families has been neighbours for generations,we could not be more familiar with each other,but after we moved to a new place,neighbours equals strangers:-(


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

Hi fly thanks for response i hope you will get better neighbors in the futuresad

 
6. myLot reputation of 98/100. crunkyjens (371)   ranked 1,570 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

That is a very sad sad story. You have to wonder though why put the blame on his neighbors? What about his family members? You mean to tell me not one family member ever tried to call him or get ahold of him? I always wave at my neighbors when I see them and say hi and ask how they are doing but that is the extent of it. I never spend more than 5-10 minutes talking to them nor do I hang out with them. If that makes me a bad person so be it.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

hey crunky i don't know about his relatives and how much they are close to the old men, but i think nowadays friends as well as neighbors are more closer then relatives except mother & father. What you say.

I also talk to my neighbors always but not more than 10 - 15 minutes. I agree on you:)

 
7. myLot reputation of 99/100. Wyldrose (344)   ranked 755 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

I live down a gravel road with only a few houses on my road. But I do know my neighbors and three of us walk together for exercise. The others are about the same age group and we always talk when we see each other out and about. I agree, though, neighbors need to be checked on once in a while. This was a really sad story you sent and hopefully it will open people's eyes. Thanks for sharing.:)


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

hey wyldrose this is nice you have neighbors of same age group and are they your friends did you talk with them always frankly. What you say

I am happy for you have agreed and for compliments:)


myLot reputation of 99/100. Wyldrose (344)   ranked 755 out of 17,576 in relationships  1 month ago

When we are out walking we talk openly about alot of things...life in general, what's been going on, that sort of thing. Have a great day.:)

 
8. myLot reputation of 99/100. carolbee (4171)   ranked 785 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

I see the neighbors outside on a regular basis. The people directly next door to us are older so if I didn't see them go out to get their mail or leave the house in their car for awhile, I'd go over there or call their daughter. I don't visit them because the wife is rather annoying. She's always questioning me about religion or something I do not care to talk about. She's a bit senile as well.

I heard this story on television and it's hard to understand how this man was dead in a chair for over a year. I would think the utility companies or other sources would be calling to discuss an overdue bill. There would be a red flag somewhere. Never seeing any trashcans outside should have been some concern. Mail piling up in the mailbox would also be strange.

Yes, neighbors visit each other in our country. I respect our neighbor's privacy and won't go ring doorbells to visit. Many also work away from the house.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  4 weeks ago

ok carolbee thanks for responsehappy

 
9. bea2008 (59)   ranked 8,836 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

I don't pay a visit at their house but I make sure that they know me and I know them, especially those that knows my family.


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  4 weeks ago

ok friend thanks for response

 
10. anita27 (66)   ranked 5,643 out of 17,576 in relationships   1 month ago

i sometimes visit my neighbours


myLot reputation of 91/100. Darshu (353)   ranked 449 out of 17,576 in relationships  4 weeks ago

Thanks for responsehappy

 
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