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myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life1 year ago

physical attraction usually happens fast even just at one glance to a person.. and looking for the emotional connection is not as easy though until you take the first step of having conversation with the person, usually finding something in common that both can relate!

is that always the situation? physical attraction before emotional connection? or are there also instances where emotional connection is noticed or felt first before the physical stuff? what do you think?

just asking=)

 
 
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tags:  attraction, physical attraction, relationship, love, emotional connection
 
1. myLot reputation of 51/100. Gargoyle0134 (1251)   ranked 7,948 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

nope! I had NO attraction at all to the man I ended up marrying and we were only friends. The attraction came after we got to kow each other better! Definitely..we were more emeotional together WAY before getting married!


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

that must be true love! nice!

thanks for the response!=)


myLot reputation of 93/100. galadr1el (625)   ranked 1,391 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

I love stories like this. happy So many people never look beyond the physical to even find out if there is anything more. It's nice to hear when people do and fall in love.


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

galadr1el, that's true! love it too!=)

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2. myLot reputation of 98/100. palonghorn (3741)   ranked 253 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

I would agree with you, that physical attraction is what comes first in most cases. However, where me and my s/o are concerned, I would have to say it was the emotional connection that happened first, since we met online. We chatted online, sent emails, and talked on the phone for 3 weeks (everyday) before we met in person. So, we had that connection before we ever had the physical connection. And we also agreed to meet 'as just friends' no expectations, and I think that was a good way to do it, however, a month after he went back home (we lived 1600 miles apart) we were making plans for me to move here for us to be together.


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

oh, i haven't thought of those who were acquainted first in the internet! you have a point there. well, based on your experience!

thanks for sharing! have a nice day!=)

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3. jingspring (9)   ranked 23,685 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

I think when a person is in despair or meets with some difficulties, a caring person who warmly and sincerely offers his help will be easily accepted and admired without involving much physical attraction. Another situation is that you get to know a person who lives far away from you through emails and letters so you can't meet and all the communation is the communation of heart. So in that case emotional connection will take place first. Generally, good manners and kindness are most important in good impressions.


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

thanks for sharing some scenarios! its good to answer the question that way though!

thanks!=)

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4. myLot reputation of 92/100. Valiantdude (893)   ranked 3,097 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

hii
mostly it comes first
because we human always attracted by the things which looks good from outside.
this doesnt matter if you connected emotionally with any person.


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

yes, that is what i also think, in MOST CASES (not all).. hehe..

thanks for responding here!=)

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5. myLot reputation of 88/100. sunshinecup (5911)   ranked 8,373 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

Well I have done both really. My ex I was attracted to physically and hoped that an emotional attraction would come. Sadly it never did and thus why he is my ex. Now for Hubby, it was an emotional connection first and foremost. Yeah he's really easy on the eyes, but that wasn't what drew me to him, it was his personality and the way he treats people, that drew me to him.



myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

so physical attraction alone does not really lasts! and that proves emotional connection is more important than physical attraction!

thanks for the response!=)

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6. myLot reputation of 96/100. bamakelly (3961)   ranked 271 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

I believe that physical attraction comes first because of course that is the first thing that you see when meeting a person. It is not the most important however. You really have to find a common ground or bond with an individual and then maybe make a decision if you really find an emotional connection.
Having things in common is very important. Looks might end up not mattering after a while. happy


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

i agree with your last sentence -- looks don't matter anymore if emotional connection is already there.

thanks for the response!=)

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7. myLot reputation of 88/100. marty3888 (1435)   ranked 2,403 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

Physical attraction may be first for most people, but not me. Looks are way down at the bottom of the list. And I really believe that if everyone felt like me, the divorce rate would be less. Maybe not a whole lot less, but a little. I'm not saying a lot of people get marriewd based on looks, but I have talked to alot of people who have said there has to be some physical attration before there's any connection. KI the mean time, there could be someone out there that you are completly compatible with, but you'll never know because they're not given a chance.


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

that's good of you! stay that way marty!

thanks for the response. have a nice day!

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8. myLot reputation of 87/100. bigtom1 (929)   ranked 7,230 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

i wont try to respond sensible here, as for me its the physical attraction that comes first, i then try to see if the emotional integration is possible


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

that's usually the case!

thanks for sharing!=)

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9. myLot reputation of 91/100. pantherwrestler2 (234)   ranked 3,820 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

I think physical attraction comes before emotional connection. When you first meet a person you see what they look like. It takes awhile to have that emotional conection because you have to get to know that person. You can be physically attracted to a person you don't even know personally.


akinangel18 (34)   ranked 36,293 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

yipp....its true...at first point one is attrcted towrds outlooks only........but later one looks..dat d person towrds whom we r attracted z actualy a gud one or not.....inner thoghts...inner of a peson can be judged in one instance....even in arrange marrieges....people go through outer looks only...d realy nature can only be judged at a later stage......


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

based on your response, i come up with the idea that physical attraction and emotional connection are both part/stages in searching for an intimate relationship. did i understood it right? hehe..

thanks for dropping here! God bless!=)

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10. myLot reputation of 99/100. leateagee (1042)   ranked 457 out of 37,560 in life   1 year ago

I can say that its a case to case basis. There are times when people get attracted first before realizing that there is an emotional matter already. But most of the time, attraction comes first then the feelings. I had an experience with emotional first than the attraction maybe because I am not very pretty. LOL Take care=)


myLot reputation of 92/100. leizlmarie (2480)   ranked 706 out of 37,560 in life  1 year ago

yes, i think so, its a case to case basis!

thanks. take care too. have a great day ahead!=)

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